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Question

I think I am going through menopause and I have been having lots of trouble with my emotions. I seem to cry at the drop of the hat. My periods are sometimes regular and sometimes not. Everyone says I have to get over it and it is all in my mind. I'm worried I may be losing it.

Answer

It is quite common for women to experience tiredness, changes in moods and some depression while they are entering the menopausal stage of life. The early stage is called pre-menopause and usually lasts from three to four years. Your feelings may be caused by changes in your hormone levels and are real feelings, not "just in your head". There are many good books out on menopause these days. You might want to go to the library or to your local bookstore and get a book that appeals to you. If learning more about menopause doesn't help, you might consult with a psychotherapist about your feelings and check with your physician about hormone replacement options, or to rule out another physical reason for your symptoms. Your book (s), your therapist and your physician should have some helpful hints on how to make you feel better!

3/12/98

Deborah G. Alicen, Ph.D., is a private practice psychologist who lives in Plainfield, Vermont--a transplanted Southerner who still can't say "cows" the way real Vermonters do. She has spent the last twelve years working mostly with children, adolescents, and adults recovering from sexual abuse and domestic violence.