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Question
Do you have any tips for falling out of love? Answer
I'm going to assume from your question that you are talking about a
relationship which ended badly for you. The main theme for "falling out of
love" under such circumstances is the theme of healing. So you might want to
consider the following:
- Be aware that you have some grieving to do. Even if the relationship ended
in anger, it is still a loss.
- Part of the grieving process involves getting some clarity in two areas: a.
an honest assessment of your role in the problems; b. acknowledging that which
you did well in the relationship.
- Be compassionate with yourself. Say some affirmations. Do an act of
kindness for yourself. Nurture yourself a little.
- Do some journalling. Write angry letters that you don't mail
- Don't be in a big hurry to get into another relationship. Take some time to
heal.
03/06/99
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