Coming to grips and handling the aging and retirement of parents, other family, friends, or yourself.http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/list.php?23Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:48:15 -0800 Phorum 5.2.7 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,117424,117424#msg-117424 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,117424,117424#msg-117424
The sillier version is watching old people acting young. Be your age! You can do it behind closed doors just as good in old age. Just remember your limits! Lol.

The good news about aging, from this mans perspective, we appreciate it more than when we were fit and firm. The small delicacies matter and we savor them, like a woman's feet. It's not about drilling anymore, but just filling with sweet cream puddin. Shortly after getting married, a rude man told me, "you can't wear it out." As crude as that was, and it kinda made me mad, yeah, you can't. But..on us mens side of the fence, sticking it out in old age, becomes a problem.]]> Gregg Retirement and AgingWed, 28 Oct 2009 14:53:01 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,117252,117252#msg-117252 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,117252,117252#msg-117252[img]http://adweb1.hornymatches.com/promos/banners/hornymatches/775x60_hm_non_geo_1.gif[/img]

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But Now! I go to sleep and wake up with a Golden Girl rerun on and those hot babes make me extremely horny! haha This speaks volumes about aging in men or more precisely, Gregg! Who do I fancy the most, the Maude chick. I'd love to date her as she was on Golden Girls. Betty White turns me on also, and she wouldn't mind that. She looks exactly like my Mom, ahmm. I mean to a tee! My mom has been mistaken for Betty. Her hair, make up, chemistry and outlook. But I gotta take out Maude first. Perhaps the hottest old chick was the middle one, the horny one. But that doesn't work for me anymore, I want Maude!

Amazing how we see as Hot in old age, that we didn't in our younger days. What I missed!

Gregg]]> Gregg Retirement and AgingSat, 25 Apr 2009 21:11:42 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,115363,115363#msg-115363 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,115363,115363#msg-115363
Ggg]]> Gregg Retirement and AgingMon, 02 Feb 2009 15:30:47 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,113791,113791#msg-113791 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,113791,113791#msg-113791
Any suggestions]]> AnnetteG Retirement and AgingMon, 11 May 2009 18:49:23 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,111254,111254#msg-111254 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,111254,111254#msg-111254
Another problem I have run into, and I'm thinking of them and not myself. Is the lack of Community today and how the world has changed. It becomes more dificult every day to relate to you people in our society. You don't care and we realize that. The world has evolved in such a fast pace in the last 10 years, it amazes me. And it continue to move faster. It's different today, and this is not something that goes back years. The 50's, 60's, 70's, and even 80's still had a since of Community and that is gone today for the Boomers.

Ggg]]> Gregg Retirement and AgingSat, 30 Aug 2008 23:12:57 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,110808,110808#msg-110808 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,110808,110808#msg-110808
What alternatives are out there?]]> Manuel Retirement and AgingSat, 30 Aug 2008 23:12:27 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,109375,109375#msg-109375 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,109375,109375#msg-109375
I just realized I have a 70+ neighbor with Asperger's. He meets all the diagnostic criteria for the disorder (social autism). Their front door abuts mine and we see each other at least once a day. Whether I like it or not, I am interacting with this man almost daily.

He has said many cruel and intentionally negative things toward me. Now that I have realized that he is so disordered, I would like to just let go of some of my resentment toward him. It's just not that easy, because he continues to shoot hatred in my direction, both verbally and nonverbally.I've resigned myself to just live and let live, and try to ignore him. Bit it isn't easy. He spreads negative rumors about me and my family and it is distressing to hear about it.

I am having trouble shifting my responses to his obnoxious behavior. I'm finding myself having trouble with being as kind to him as I'd like. What can I do to better deal with this man?]]> Joanne Retirement and AgingSat, 30 Aug 2008 23:14:09 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,108991,108991#msg-108991 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,108991,108991#msg-108991The USDA says you need 3,000-5,000 ORAC (antioxidant) units per day. Most Americans get under 1,000.
In one tablespoon of unsweetened, non-alkalinized cocoa there are 4,000 units.
Natural cocoa really, really is a drug, a blockbuster drug. Here is its page:
[www.amazon.com]
Here it is too on the Antioxidant page, at or very near the top:
[www.amazon.com]
P.S. We use Hershey's, the little brown box. Many supermarkets are starting to carry their own brands, now that the recent health findings about cocoa are becoming known, and that's okay -- as long as the product doesn't say alkalinized ("Dutch processed)." Alkalinization destroys the antioxidants.]]> camillefour Retirement and AgingFri, 15 Feb 2008 09:35:32 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,108733,108733#msg-108733 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,108733,108733#msg-108733
There was also some hang-ups in probating the estate and I had to pay an attorney close to $4000 in legal fees. Since my mother never had my dad's estate probated, the attorney had to do both my dad's AND my mom's. I'm not getting the veteran's, senior or STAR exemptions on the property any longer, either and the taxes in my locale are not inexpensive.

The house is falling apart because my mother never wanted anyone to come to the house and do any repairs, so the roofing, plumbing, wiring are not "code" and the exterior wood is full of dry rot. I'm probably going to have to pay out thousands more to have all this repaired.

What really is bothering me is my absent mindedness lately, I do thing like forgetting to shut off the oven after baking, totally missing important appointments, and I draw blanks when trying to remember people's names. I'd expect this to happen to someone in their 70's or 80's not in their 50's. I' feel fatigued all the time. I can't stay awake past 7 PM and I waken feeling I haven slept at all. I even feel like I'm nodding off at my desk at work sometimes. I also feel really angry and argumentative. If it takes a store clerk more than 10 seconds to help me, I have a ballistic episode. My doctor tested my thyroid function, but it was normal.

Anyone have any ideas how I could handle thing better or what might be going on with my memory loss and snippy attitude?]]> debodun Retirement and AgingTue, 04 Mar 2008 21:01:40 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,105986,105986#msg-105986 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,105986,105986#msg-105986
Just had to share.]]> Annette Retirement and AgingSat, 06 Sep 2008 09:05:16 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,105320,105320#msg-105320 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,105320,105320#msg-105320
My stepdad is currently at home being cared for by my 90-year-old mother but the situation is reaching the point where she just can't take care of his needs anymore.]]> LindaJ Retirement and AgingSat, 06 Sep 2008 09:06:34 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,102023,102023#msg-102023 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,102023,102023#msg-102023
Finding the right level of care, and the right ambiance for aging parent is an enormous challenge, especially if parents live far away.

A Place for Mom, Incwww.aplaceformom.com) is a nationwide information service for elder care referrals. It helps find the right fit, be it for nursing homes, assisted living facilities, adult family homes, independent living or home care agencies. Recommendations are based on clinical, financial and geographic needs.

Services are free to consumers. Facilities and agencies pay a fee to A Place for Mom Inc., to be included in the referral list. The company does not own or operate any the facilities are agencies to which it refers. All the facilities are agencies appropriately licensed by the state in which they operate can participate.]]> Joanne Retirement and AgingSun, 04 Mar 2007 20:19:06 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,101981,101981#msg-101981 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,101981,101981#msg-101981
Andrew]]> Andrew Retirement and AgingTue, 29 May 2007 12:14:03 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,101192,101192#msg-101192 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,101192,101192#msg-101192but it can help us all becoem more aware of how we might end up abusing the elderly people we love/hate.


Elder Abuse: Vulnerable
Seniors Need Nurses? Help
Debra Anscombe Wood, RN

[community.nursingspectrum.com]

Most family caregivers have their elderly relatives? best interests at heart. But between 1 million and 2 million elderly Americans are victims of the little-recognized societal problem of elder abuse. Those victimized often are too frightened to report the abuse because they dread the alternative living scenario ? nursing home placement. Consequently they silently endure injuries, exploitation, or mistreatment inflicted by so-called caregivers.

?Nurses should be very concerned,? says Johanna Yurkow, MSN, MBA, NHA, director of operations for Living Inde-pendently for Elders at the University of Pennsylvania. ?If you think you have never seen a case of elder mistreatment and if you?ve been in practice any length of time, you?ve missed it. It?s prevalent.?

Elder Mistreatment: Abuse, Neglect, and Exploitation in an Aging America, a 2002 report from The National Academies Press, states that elder abuse usually entails actions that are intended to harm vulnerable elders. Abuse also may include caregiver failure to attend to a person?s basic needs. Another study from the National Center on Elder Abuse estimates that for every elder abuse case reported to authorities, five more cases go unreported.

Mistreatment of elders is on the rise. The 2004 Survey of State Adult Protective Services found a 19.7% increase in reports of abuse and neglect between 2000 and 2004, and a 15.6% increase in substantiated cases. Most perpetrators were adult children or other family members.

?A nurse has to use all of her senses,? says Ann Marie Levine, RN, CS, MS, MBA, associate administrator of the Hebrew Home for the Aged in Riverdale, N.Y. ?From the beginning, observe the dynamic between the caregiver and the senior.?

Older individuals who are cognitively or physically impaired and cannot advocate for themselves are at greatest risk for abuse.?Whenever you treat an older adult, it should always be something to think of as you go through your interview or assessment,? Yurkow says.

Red flags that indicate elder abuse include failure to seek health care despite symptoms of obvious disease; inappropriate choices on the part of the caregiver; malnourishment or dehydration; repetitive hospital admissions for the same condition; frequent injuries (especially if inconsistent with the story given); refusal to undergo a physical exam; and doctor- or hospital-switching after injuries are sustained.

A history of family abuse, stress, or drug or alcohol abuse also increases the likelihood that mistreatment will occur. Supporting caregivers, referring them to counseling, or supplementing care with professional services can help prevent abuse, says Pat Drea, RN, BSN, MPH, vice president of Visiting Angels, a national home health company based in Havertown, Pa.

Older adults may be victims of sexual abuse such as rape; emotional abuse, which often goes unreported; or financial exploitation, which may entail caregivers accruing credit in the elder person?s name. Many older adults often are subject to several types of mistreatment.

?It?s very important for nurses to talk to seniors alone to really @#$%& what?s going on,? Levine says.

If a nurse suspects abuse and has a trusting relationship with an older adult, he or she may approach the subject by asking if someone has inflicted a visible injury or if the senior feels safe at home.

?Somebody who is afraid will not open up immediately,? Levine says. ?Don?t be rushed. Take those extra minutes.?

Observe state abuse reporting requirements, and do not send home an elder who is in imminent danger. Discuss any action that may be taken with the patient before calling authorities or bringing in the rest of the health care team, and assure the older adult that the investigating authority only wants to help.

Levine advises nurses, ?Trust your instincts. Don?t think someone else will take care of it. This is our problem.?]]> Jimmy Retirement and AgingSat, 17 Feb 2007 20:29:54 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,98971,98971#msg-98971 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,98971,98971#msg-98971 Manny Retirement and AgingThu, 19 Oct 2006 19:33:50 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,98598,98598#msg-98598 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,98598,98598#msg-98598
She's clearly obsessing, and she admits it. Despite my attempts at tactfully diverting us to other topics, she never ceases to bring the topic back around to her wrinkling skin, her drooping eyelids, sagging breasts, etc. etc. She knows I am significantly older and that I am in a lot worse shape than she is.

I wish I could help her move through this, but her pain is real, and strong, and I am at a loss for how to get through this with her. I wish I give her an autiotape on aging gracegfully, or a book, or something to help jog her out of this rut.

If anyone has any ideas, I'd be grateful. It's gotten to the point of my turning her down for lunch because some days, because I'm just not up for listening to her.]]> Joanne Retirement and AgingSun, 08 Oct 2006 10:35:36 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,97512,97512#msg-97512 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,97512,97512#msg-97512
Sometimes we do what we 'must' remembering that 'what goes around comes around'. There are extenuating circumstances sometimes - but we should at least try to care for our aging parents. After all, We are next.
We, too, have my husband's mother with us. She spent what we thought was her own money to build an addition onto our home (a mother in law suite, LR, BR, small kit, handicap access. bath). My husband worked like a dog evenings and weekends for 6 months to get it ready in time for her move.He is in construction and did 90% of the work himself.
We get along fine. We all have 'our own space' and it is working out pretty well. I have 1 day off a week and usually spend it with her - dr. visits, errands, etc.
Sadly, she made her youngest son her sole power of attorney when selling her property and he divided up the proceeds between himself and the middle child - telling my husband that his share was what his mother had spent on the addition to our home! In reality, his brothers got considerably more than the cost of the materials that went into the addition and his labor was condidered VOLUNTARY. His mother got nothing from the sale.
Are we wrong to feel that this was an inappropriate way to 'divide' the proceeds of the sale of her home?
Prior to adding the mother in law suite, his mother never mentioned that my husband was spending his 'inheritance' on her apartment when she offered to do this. She said she would rather put the money there than give it to a stranger for rent. We assumed she was spending her own money and that the addition would be a 'thank you' for caring for her in her later years. She had been here a year now.
It has strained the relationship of these siblings.
My husband's brother never discussed any of this with my husband. We can only assume that his mother agreed to it - she had several phone conversations with him and insisted on signing the power of attorney.
I told my husband that she does not even know how fortunate she is in that we still love her and will take care of her despite how things have turned out.
We are just disappointed that that we will never see any inheritance - since ours was spent on my MIL's accomodations. I think that having that decision made for us is the most frustrating. Had we known that in advance, we would probably have chosen to just give her her own bedroom - NOT AN ENTIRE SMALL APT. and put the rest of the money in the bank. We have no retirement account and nothing but social security to look forward to. We would have to sell our home to realize any benefit from his 'interitance'. That is something that his siblings will not be forced to do. They got to spend their inheritance any way they chose.
Thanks for letting me dump here. Sorry. I really have no one to tell this to. We have kept this to ourselves.]]> mlr Retirement and AgingTue, 30 Sep 2008 20:30:14 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,97431,97431#msg-97431 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,97431,97431#msg-97431
I struggle with whether or not to tell my Mother because they are so 'close'. They live in the same small town, and see each other a lot. I haven't said anything all these years, and don't know if it is a good idea at this point, but it just seems to be getting worse as the years go by. I think I probably need to say something to both my Auny and my Mother, but I am not sure how to do it without starting a big fight. Does anyone have any ideas?]]> Jimmy Retirement and AgingSun, 08 Oct 2006 10:36:43 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,42985,42985#msg-42985 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,42985,42985#msg-42985
No real handicaps ,except some vision loss.

Spent all of March ,,and April in the Hospital. Some of the time hooked up to tubes ,and Monitor wires.

It was impossible to move, use the toilet or roll over without calling a Nurse.



Now my problems are that I relive the being alnmost tied down,and immobilized for that time.

As it becomes evening ( 6 PM ) and daylight fades into darkness I start to get really Nervous ,and sometimes scared of being alone.

Every light in the house MUST be on .

Is there a way to combat these phobias ?]]> Nunya Retirement and AgingSat, 19 Aug 2006 08:24:34 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,42668,42668#msg-42668 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,42668,42668#msg-42668
This past Christmas, I had the opportunity to go back to the small town where I grew up. I was appalled and dismayed at the changes that have trenspired in the 30+ years I have been away. I had trouble realizing this was the same town. All the quaint mom & pop stores and red brick buildings that peppered the business dictrict had been demolished and fast food franchises and gas stations were on every corner. A great many other stores were empty and vacant. Even the old marble bank that looked like a Greek temple is now the site of a parking lot. No movie theater - no bakery. A strip mall consisting of a dollar store, a chain pharmacy, a pizza restaurant, H& R Block, a laundromat and a beauty parlor was where a small park (with even a fountain) had been where I romped as a child. I tried to look up my high school music teacher with the idea that we could talk and reminisce about the "good old days" but discovered that he had passed away from a sudden stroke over 20 years ago. I couldn't find one person I used to know. It had changed from a close-knit society of happy families into an impersonal yuppie bedroom community (a place where people only come to sleep - they work and shop in distant cities). This was no longer the town I understood or knew. I felt like I was in some episode from the "Twilight Zone." I realize small changes are inevitable, but this was mass revovation. These "civic improvements" were probably made with the idea of bringing ecomomic growth to the town, but to me it ruined the town. I was feeling quite disturbed and stressed over it and still feel it to some degree. I still like to remember ir as it was in the 50's & 60's. Am I being old-fashioned? How can I deal with my frustration?]]> Kay Retirement and AgingFri, 11 Mar 2005 04:40:10 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10240,10240#msg-10240 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10240,10240#msg-10240
OTHER PEOPLE BUG ME,IRRITATE ME GET ME ANGRY.I HAVE A PROBLEM ACCEPTING THE DIFFERENCES IN OTHERS.THIS IMPACTS ON MY WORK LIFE.I,M NOT MISS POPULARITY AT WORK BUT THEY ARE A LOT MORE ACCEPTING OF ME THAN I AM OF THEM.I AM SO CRITICAL .I REALLY DON,T MISS THE PEOPLE I,VE LEFT IN MY LIFE.TO TELL THE TRUTH IT SEEMS VERY PEACEFUL THIS WAY.THESE FEELINGS STARTEDWHEN MY LAST DAUGHTER LEFT HOME AT AGE 30 TO MOVE IN WITH HER FIANCE.WE SEEMED TO BE MORE THAN MOTHER AND DAUGHTER WE WERE FRIENDS.REALLY GOOD FRIENDS.YET I WAS SO HAPPY WHEN SHE FOUND SOMEBODY WHO WAS SO LOVING AND KIND AND GOOD.BLAH BLAH BLAH IT,S BEEN 3 MONTHS SINCE I 'LEFT'.IVE SPOKE TO NOBODY. NOW WHAT]]> Patsy Retirement and AgingThu, 02 Nov 2006 11:56:20 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10238,10238#msg-10238 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10238,10238#msg-10238 Starla Retirement and AgingThu, 26 Oct 2006 19:24:08 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10235,10235#msg-10235 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10235,10235#msg-10235
We hadn't spoken in 12 years. No contact, nothing. After hearing about this through a third party (my cousin) my husband felt the "right" thing to do was to financially assist her until she could get back on her feet. She works at a school 2 hours per day, 5 days a week and at first said she was gung ho on finding a job, even full time so she wouldn't have to accept our help. She's collecting from Social Security, plus her small amount from her $10. an hour job ($100./wk). We told her we could help her for a year or two, but that we had our futures to think about, but this would help her temporarily until she came up with a new plan.

Now, she is flat refusing to change her situation and get a second or better job with more hours. She says she likes "her mornings" and will not work in offices again because the women are "bitches." She needs to work full time to support herself, or at least 5 hours a day, but she won't. We intend to fulfill our obligation and our word, but how do we get her to quit being so lazy and WORK! I realize she's 68 and only has vision on one eye, but hearing her "poormouth" all the time is disrespectful to us especially when we're helping her. She cries that she never has any money, yet she took her birthday off work! It's only been a couple of months and my husband and I are frustrated with her attitude.

Any advise would be so appreciated. Living with us is NOT EVER an option. EVER.

Thank you very much. Donna =^^=]]> Donna Rose Retirement and AgingWed, 25 Oct 2006 18:56:19 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10226,10226#msg-10226 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10226,10226#msg-10226
There is no other family. My wife wants to have her move in with us. If she does, I will go crazy. I have no choice.

Does anyone have any ideas about how to make this less painful? I don't want to hate her or my wife for doing this.]]> Frank Retirement and AgingWed, 25 Oct 2006 18:58:30 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10042,10042#msg-10042 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10042,10042#msg-10042drug/pain management ensued with me at the bedsides moreso
than anyone else. Father was attentive, middle sister in the same
town was participating full force in her terminally-toxic marriage of
nearly 30 years,and "baby" sister lived over 200 miles away. Where I live,next door in my late grandmother's house, is where I operate
a home-based business . Does anyone know how little respect
others have for the time and space it takes to make a home business
work? Well I can assure you that my mother---on drugs or not---
did not.
But her daily visits to my house next door began to bother me even
more than just her nosiness: she said that Daddy thought that she
was losing her mind. And I knew that her short term memory had
been impaired either by too much anesthetic from so many surgeries, from the drugs that she was presently mixing and taking,
or from her own maternal family history. Yet he never discussed it
with me nor I with him. I just wanted to keep my business alive and
keep up with my fiance whom I was lucky to find after being single
for the last 9 years.
Fast forward to summer of 2004. A week of special events is planned and executed to commemorate my 15th year in business.
Not only did I make over $3,000 in sales and get some good press,I also received a cahsiers check for $2,000 from my parents. They
had leased the land we live on to an oil company for drilling!
I tried to ask questions but eventually had to go to the public records at the courthouse to find out the truth. My home---yet not my home---had a full, standard protection from an oil or gas well of a mere 200 feet!]]> Linda Retirement and AgingSun, 05 Nov 2006 17:01:22 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10034,10034#msg-10034 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10034,10034#msg-10034
My husband is about ready to blow up at her. I have just gone along and laughed with her, or agreed. That might have been my fatal mistake. She's not anywhere near the day she would need to live with anyone. But this is beginning to make me nervous, especially since she just went out and bought herself a $70,000 car last week.

I know she's not wealthy, and if it comes down to it, she might very well run herself into the gorund with her spending.

I am going to stop agreeing with her when she says she will come live with us, and just stay silent. If I cross her, she has a temper tantrum...can not call me for months. She lives alone and I do not want to hurt her, but now I'm getting scared that she emans it about coming to live with us when she runs out of money.

Any suggestions?? Comments?]]> Cheryl Retirement and AgingSat, 08 Jul 2006 08:14:13 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10031,10031#msg-10031 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10031,10031#msg-10031 Leigh Retirement and AgingTue, 17 Jul 2007 07:55:39 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10027,10027#msg-10027 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10027,10027#msg-10027Thanks.]]> Donna Retirement and AgingMon, 19 Jun 2006 10:19:44 -0700 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10023,10023#msg-10023 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?23,10023,10023#msg-10023
Are you still around theses parts, if you are would like to talk.

whyness]]> whyness Retirement and AgingSat, 12 Feb 2005 12:40:56 -0800