SelfhelpMagazine Support Community Forums is the largest and oldest of support communities founded by a licensed psychologist and developed by hundreds of volunteer professionals as a "labor of love" in an effort to create a safe and nurturing environment for you.http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/index.phpSat, 21 Nov 2009 04:10:15 -0800 Phorum 5.2.7 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?39,117477,117477#msg-117477 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?39,117477,117477#msg-117477
I have never been in trouble in my life and don't know what I should do in this type of situation. I guess maybe I just needed to talk about it too.

Thanks for listening!!!
Heather]]> hswaim Sex & RelationshipsSat, 21 Nov 2009 00:01:38 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?69,102126,117476#msg-117476 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?69,102126,117476#msg-117476
Its work in real life. My browser crash and I lost my references to Sufism. I'm completely lost. I can't memorize that stuff. And my bookmarks on my google chrome didn't import. I still didn't recover from my windows crashing last month. I'm trying to digest the heart sutra and the eight realizations of great beings. I want to compare them to the eight levels of contemplation in Orthodox Christianity. The first three of them pertain to addiction.

The ninety were unreal. Was I sober??]]> Lycas7x AnxietyThu, 19 Nov 2009 21:26:29 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117475,117475#msg-117475 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117475,117475#msg-117475Lavender Oil an essential oil, it contains essence of the lavender plant. Lavender pure essential oil is cultivated and harvested in the Mediterranean today. More specifically, lavender is grown in Provence, France. Lavender is the most popular essential oil in aromatherapy; this is probably due to the fact that it is the most versatile of all essential oils as it can be used for a large variety of ailments ranging from insect repellent to sedative. Lavender’s balancing effect calms uncontrolled emotions, removes indecisiveness and emotional conflict, and helps to bring the feelings under conscious control. It brings a sense of rationality to the conscious mind. Its effect is antibacterial, pain-relieving, healing for wounds, soothing for skin diseases, deodorizing, antiseptic, fungicidal, insect-repelling, rejuvenating, and anti-inflammatory.]]> Woolmer Health, Recipes & SleepThu, 19 Nov 2009 02:21:24 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?69,104488,117474#msg-117474 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?69,104488,117474#msg-117474 gratz_rockz AnxietyWed, 18 Nov 2009 17:16:12 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117469,117473#msg-117473 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117469,117473#msg-117473 Annette Death of a Loved OneWed, 18 Nov 2009 11:03:17 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117472,117472#msg-117472 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117472,117472#msg-117472 blandinevisha Health, Recipes & SleepTue, 17 Nov 2009 10:50:39 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?65,117471,117471#msg-117471 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?65,117471,117471#msg-117471we took it to court and it was a mis trial because the inditment was worded wrong! it did not say he did it for sexual gradifation.....spell wrong....sorry
any way now its just as painful as if it happened yesterday.
I was hopping someone might know how i can go about suing the boy friend.
all we want is to clear are names because now we are made out to be the liers.
and he is made out to be the victom and has acsess to young girls again.
please help he needs to be stopped.
if anyone can hel;p me please write me a email
thankyou
carter7137@roadrunner.com]]> angrymom Sexual Abuse & MolestationMon, 16 Nov 2009 17:57:25 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117470,117470#msg-117470 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117470,117470#msg-117470, would greatly appreciate it.

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water damage mold removal portland or ]]> rickystim5 Health, Recipes & SleepMon, 16 Nov 2009 08:35:46 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117469,117469#msg-117469 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117469,117469#msg-117469
Thank you,
Fara]]> Fara Death of a Loved OneMon, 16 Nov 2009 04:33:06 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?39,115208,117468#msg-117468 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?39,115208,117468#msg-117468 gratz_rockz Sex & RelationshipsSun, 15 Nov 2009 21:34:26 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,117467,117467#msg-117467 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,117467,117467#msg-117467
Just wanted to say Happy Veteran's Day. You know I have nothing but respect for our vets and active duty soldiers. You have my gratitude and I could not let the day go by without saying so.

I live in a tiny tiny town but they had a ceremony this morning for the vets - it was very nice and I saw a lot of young people there. Made me feel good to see that.


Annette]]> Annette Open Chat for SocializingWed, 11 Nov 2009 12:17:07 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117466,117466#msg-117466 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?118,117466,117466#msg-117466
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mold removal portland or]]> Mariyameggy Health, Recipes & SleepWed, 11 Nov 2009 07:26:16 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?68,117383,117465#msg-117465 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?68,117383,117465#msg-117465This can involve simple tasks. Start with a short list. These are the things that you are going to do everyday to stay well.

Your secondary list is the things that you are going to do when you feel good. These things do not have to be accomplished daily. Some things you are already doing with success. Prepairing meals. Driving to work perhaps Laundry and dishes. Your chores that do not need to be accomplished to keep you well go on your secondary list. Make a list of your resourse and the people who can help when things start breaking down.

You have external motives and internal stressors. You will gradually become aware of them. Talk about them with your friends. Establish peramiters for yourself. Get a daily planner if you'd like a fill it in as you go. Look at the activities you were doing last week at the same time. Schedules in your walks and meetings. Your shopping and your visits. Your work schedule. Do you have time for school and family? If happy hour starts at 5 when is dinner?

Give your life meaning and purpose. What do you have to offer someone in a relationship. If your basing them on need are they a two way street. If you are a husband and father; son. Think about the people that are helping you already to meet your needs.]]> Lycas7x Depression & BipolarWed, 11 Nov 2009 00:14:00 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?69,102126,117464#msg-117464 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?69,102126,117464#msg-117464
I'm still doing Sundays too. It just got crazy around here. I take a perk. for the tention. I'm going to ask the Dr. if he's heard of oxyprosin. I think its non- narc. I'm usually really good about eating. They get dinner started so late, and its actually Veterans Day and we have a storm coming in so the guys arent working.

I need solitude and quiet.]]> Lycas7x AnxietyTue, 10 Nov 2009 23:41:05 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?38,117463,117463#msg-117463 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?38,117463,117463#msg-117463 BowlbyC Childhood & ParentingTue, 10 Nov 2009 21:58:07 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?65,117462,117462#msg-117462 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?65,117462,117462#msg-117462
Never arrested but investigated by Dept of Children & Family (Florida) who find nothing and close their case. All this happened May 2009 and daughter and now son not speaking to the Father but other daughter is furious and says "Dad would never do something like that".

Lawyers say they cant help since no arrest occured. Now what?]]> daveyjones12 Sexual Abuse & MolestationThu, 05 Nov 2009 17:40:29 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,115457,117461#msg-117461 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,115457,117461#msg-117461 Annette Terrorism & PoliticsThu, 05 Nov 2009 13:05:12 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117460#msg-117460 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117460#msg-117460
Dini - we'll get 'em next year huh?]]> Annette Open Chat for SocializingThu, 05 Nov 2009 04:38:35 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117271,117459#msg-117459 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117271,117459#msg-117459
"This is my prayer in the harvest
When favor and providence flow
I know I'm filled to be emptied again
The seed I've received I will sow".

That and Yofiyah's Echad B'echad...."One into one..... One becomes one.....". It is an anesthetic of sorts for me.

My friend taught me trail running, an activity where your focus is solely where your feet are landing on the trail, avoiding roots, rocks, trip ups.... a place where thought ceases and existence consists of the immediate present, no past, no future, just intense focus on what and where you are in the moment. He was the supreme athlete, that was his coping strategy. Mine was intellectualism. We learned from one another, we were both student/teacher of the other.

Right now, his seems the better way, offering more consolation than words ever could. It is better at keeping the pain manageable, it is an affirmation of life, both his and mine. I will not, cannot, do anything but live the life he no longer can, for both of us. As I sit here at work, my walls are lined with photos I have taken. Directly across from me is one of him, running, down the trail.... a reminder always of where my day will end.... on the trail, on the same path, always behind him.

He always had to be ahead of me in everything :)]]> KarenQJ Death of a Loved OneWed, 04 Nov 2009 13:12:16 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,115457,117458#msg-117458 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,115457,117458#msg-117458 Gregg Terrorism & PoliticsWed, 04 Nov 2009 09:59:45 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117457#msg-117457 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117457#msg-117457
Always have enjoyed the fall and the World Series along with football, both college and pro. However, the baseball season has become rediculously long. Like now, with the Series still going on, we're over half way thru the College games and half way with the NFL. The other problem for baseball is the weather in late fall. But I like choices, and overlapping sports gives me just that. The Pom Poms never go out of style!]]> Gregg Open Chat for SocializingWed, 04 Nov 2009 09:51:31 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117271,117456#msg-117456 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117271,117456#msg-117456
I think there is no greater thing that you can do in tribute than to carry on and be important to someone else so the love will carry on.]]> Annette Death of a Loved OneWed, 04 Nov 2009 09:37:42 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117271,117455#msg-117455 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?28,117271,117455#msg-117455
I listen to his voice messages saved on my answering machine, I "see" him still on the trails we ran, I feel his presence. Your posting resonated with me in that I feel he lives within my heart, that his presence still felt is evidence of his life lived and his life STILL living in me and through me. Our encounters with others transforms our very beings, and we are never left the same as we were before. Love amplifies this exponentially. Death brings into focus just how much we become transformed by the presence of the beloved.

In tribute and memory to that, I do what he can no longer do for himself.... run those trails, grab life, and live it. Yet, there is a sadness that permeates, the emotions are still so raw. We all have an "expiration" date stamped on us at birth and maybe the best we can hope to do is create us much love and positive feelings in the world, in others, help them achieve their dreams, soothe their wounds, and in doing so heal ourselves and create a continuity that would defy death.

Forgive my ramblings, for I am still trying so very hard to work through this. The week after he died, I woke up screaming in the middle of the night, awakened by a physical sensation of being electrified, as if I had been probed, and as I awoke I was yelling at him "go back, you can't stay here, you've already left". Several weeks later I had a dream in which he called me, and I kept asking him "where are you?" "Home" he kept responding.... as I pictured him sitting at his desk talking to me, I said "you can't be, don't you know?" "Know what" he asks. "You're dead"..... to which he laughed his joyous filled laughter and said to me "you still believe in that stuff?". I woke up then.

I think of the words of Kahlil Gibran who wrote "The Prophet"....

You would know the secret of death.
But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?
The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light.
If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.
For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one....

May God bring all our broken hearts peace.]]> KarenQJ Death of a Loved OneWed, 04 Nov 2009 09:23:54 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117454#msg-117454 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117454#msg-117454
I too am not a fan of all this season overlapping stuff either Annette. To every thing (and sport) there is a season ya know? At least there was until television and cable got involved and started throwing money around and viola - "wildcard" teams and an extended post-season with an "extra" play-off series/game. IMHO a team that didn't earn its way to the top of the standings DURING the long, hard season does not belong in a playoff game or series.

Call me old-fashioned.

Pass the popcorn and water. I'm revving up for game six. I"m sure the Yankees will be celebrating at home, but am thankful it wasn't a sweep or something gruesome like that........:~ With any luck it'll go to seven games, and in a seventh game, toss the odds out the window.

Go Pats!]]> Dini Open Chat for SocializingTue, 03 Nov 2009 14:52:10 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,117302,117453#msg-117453 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,117302,117453#msg-117453
The two officers agreed that Obama is likely to send more troops, but not as many as the Generals want, and see what happens from there. The one General was Clark, who is generally viewed as a liberal being a Democrat, but he sometimes has sound reasoning.]]> Gregg Terrorism & PoliticsTue, 03 Nov 2009 12:02:58 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117452#msg-117452 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117452#msg-117452
I don't think the Yanks really threatened, however good ol Red Sox traitor Damon came thru again and they were just a homer away from tieing it up. I'm amazed at Utleys homer barrage. I think his homers have been more significant than Reggies in a world series. But then again, Reggie was hitting the dead ball back then.

Yeah Dini, keep the popcorn coming. Pass it on down. I wonder if Annette has the three ft rule when doing her cheers? You know, like the dancers do?

The Phils are in the same spot the Angels were. Needing two in a row in the Bronx. Fat chance. But at least the Yanks have to be a bit concerned now. Looks like Lee is done however for the season? Not enuff rest to come back. Blanton is just waiting to be smoked big time.]]> Gregg Open Chat for SocializingTue, 03 Nov 2009 11:50:43 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,117302,117451#msg-117451 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?106,117302,117451#msg-117451 Annette Terrorism & PoliticsTue, 03 Nov 2009 07:03:45 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117450#msg-117450 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117450#msg-117450
We watched football last night - looking forward to watching the Saints and my Pats in a couple weeks. There really is something wrong when you can watch baseball, football and hockey in the same night! Remember when each sport had its own season???]]> Annette Open Chat for SocializingTue, 03 Nov 2009 07:00:46 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117449#msg-117449 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117449#msg-117449
"Multiple signs" is the anti-dote to sign theft? I guess Posada doesn't worry about sign thieves with those painted nails of his...........

Hehee.....if there's no room on the couch bleacher seats work for me El G; as long as you can see the game (and reach the popcorn)!]]> Dini Open Chat for SocializingTue, 03 Nov 2009 06:38:10 -0800 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117448#msg-117448 http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/phorum/read.php?112,115656,117448#msg-117448
Tell Couch Potato and Boss man to move one seat down and make room for El G! Not much space left for Dini, but you gotta come early for these cheers from Annette, wet grounds or not. I think the flippy skirt is what I like best, and the way you twirl it real fast when the Phillies score, but they don't score fast enuff.

On a somber note, these games are taking forever. Every pitch is like science. Baseball was never meant to be so technical. The announcers were discussing "multiple signs" last night?? Who cares. Throw it and hit it. The Phils are on the brink, too bad. But they won last year and Pa has had more than there share of success recently.

Now back to pom poms and cheers! Pass me another cold one with chips CP, and don't block my view of Annette. Lol!]]> Gregg Open Chat for SocializingMon, 02 Nov 2009 12:26:53 -0800