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Hating Yourself

In the SHM Forums, Dini responded to one member's concern who's struggling to find some answers on why don't he like himself. He wrote: Sounds like you're having a tough time. I'm just an amateur here but it's hard to respond meaningfully without some sort of specifics. You say you "really don't like" yourself. Can you say why? What is it about...

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Losing One's Cheerfulness

In the SHM Community Forums, Manuel shared his thoughts with one forum member who wanted to know why did he change from a happy person to cynical, socially unfit, angry person. He said: Sarah, I also want to welcome you to these forums and can completely understand your wanting earlier, simpler times. Its normal to want the peace of innocence. If you are plagued by the recent past, you have many...

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Old Girlfriend

In the SHM Forums, Dini answered a married man who wrote about how he suddenly remembers an ex-girlfriend and anxious to find her again. He said: I appreciate your honesty and courage in bringing up your predicament and feelings about it. You ask whether or not you need psychiatrtic help and I am certainly and absolutely NOT qualified to say, but I can give you a suggestion for what it's...

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How to Be Happy and Develop Self Esteem

In the SHM Community Forums, Lily tried to help someone who can't figure out how to be happy and talked about not having self esteem. Lily responded: To find happiness, I started focusing on what I needed for a change, rather than trying to make everyone else happy.   I started to take better care of myself. I took all medication I WANTED to take exactly as prescribed, rather than just...

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Working at Being Happy by Making a Gratitude List

In the SHM Community Forums, Lily shares her own list of things to be grateful for. She  said: Some days I have to work to find even a moment of happiness. On those days, I force myself to write things I appreciate – I think some groups call it having a "gratitude list." Like this: I'm grateful for having this website to come to when no one in the world seems to care about...

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