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Feeling So Anxious and Procrastinating

In the SHM Community Forums, Joanne responded to one forum member who is worried about a job application rather than enjoying her day off with her boyfriend.  She said: I think what you're describing is too much pressure – I know the feeling all too well.  I've learned to do 1 thing at a time, and if my mind starts wandering over to another, to call it back and say, "No! I...

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Depression and Anxiety Caused By Life's Adversities

In the SHM Community Forums, Dini admired one member's courage of speaking out his feelings about his depression and anxiety. He answered his concern by writing: JJunalo, Hello and welcome to these forums. I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to come here and have the emotional courage to say what is truly going on with you; in my humble opinion, that takes courage and I admire it!...

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Gay Fears of Hate Crimes

In the SHM Community Forums, Joanne expressed her affection for gay people who lived in the same fear being felt by black people in the society. She said: I think you are right, Gregg. Some hetero men are afraid of gays. Like most of us, when faced with something we don't know or understand, we fear it. In an attempt to overcome what we fear, we put it down, laugh at it, mock it, ridicule...

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Losing One's Cheerfulness

In the SHM Community Forums, Manuel shared his thoughts with one forum member who wanted to know why did he change from a happy person to cynical, socially unfit, angry person. He said: Sarah, I also want to welcome you to these forums and can completely understand your wanting earlier, simpler times. Its normal to want the peace of innocence. If you are plagued by the recent past, you have many...

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Driving Anxiety

To answer the concern of one SHM Community Forum member about her driving anxiety, Joanne wrote: Roxana, It is normal to be sacred to drive in a big city. Driving is a scary thing, when you stop and think about it. But maybe you can learn to drive using less traveled roads and with only one other person in the car with you. If you get upset, you can always pull over, do some deep breathing like...

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