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Rejected Because of Lesbianism
In response to a young woman who is concerned about being rejected when she tells her religious friends about her lesbianism, Lily said:
I've learned that it just isn't safe to come out to everyone. Period. Some people can't handle it and will reject you. Period.
It's a crazy world. I chose to come out as a lesbian although I am really bisexual. But I had to come out as lesbian because if I told the lesbians that I am bi-sexual, they would reject me too. I learned to keep my mouth shut.
It is like living a double life, but no more than when we are around children, or clergy, or teachers, or strangers and don't mention sex at all. We all show parts of our personalities to the world, as we, and the world can handle it.
Your freak-out about this will calm itself as you decide who is safe to come out to, and who just can't or won't hear it.
You are having normal coming out anxieties. Just take one step at a time, tell one trusted person at a time. Some will reject you, others won't. Some you will never be able to honest with, because they will judge you with their narrow minds and toss you aside. Others will embrace you and enrich your life with their acceptance and love. Life is hard.
3 Responses to “Rejected Because of Lesbianism”
People who are closed-minded will always find a reason to reject you. It make them feel superior. maybe this girl needs a new set of friends. Losing friends is not easy, but giving up of oneself to maintain friends is not the way to go, either. Young adulthood is a difficult life stage.
We often come across all sorts of people and those very people that you continue to communicate with may have reached the ideal scene of playing a part in your life, yet there are those that may also quickly walk out on you as well. In my opinion, you shouldn’t worry about those that shows non-acceptance of who you really are as a person. You should stay mindful of the fact that there are people out there that does not and will continue to not accommodate anything of that matter. In saying so, you are who you are and you should embrace those factors and accept them even for yourself instead of having to hide it away because of what others think and may think. In that way, you’ve given yourself the opportunity to evaluate and also figure out who’s actually worth your time and your troubles and who’s not. You shouldn’t have to close yourself out just so that you’d be able to prolong “friendships†with people that don’t (may become accustomed to, yet chooses not to) accept you, in which acceptance is one of the characteristics of “friendship“. Truthfully speaking, people walk in and out of our lives all of the time and those that chooses to walk out, due to the simple fact that they are of imprudence, should not be of existence in your life. We’re surrounded by tons of people and thousands of opportunities to obtain new and possibly, better “friendships“. Therefore, dropping a few unworthy, current, “so-called friendships†should be a great thing. Let the others bury their own selves in the discomfort of their narrow minds and remember that you shouldn’t let the ignorance of how others think get you down.
In other words, acquire an enhancement in your self-esteem/self-confidence. The results should be similar to saying and believing “I am who I am. Either you like it or not, accept it or you don’t, I know who I am and I will continue to embrace exactly that. For all I care, I want others to appreciate my friendship and accept me knowing, the informative details of my self-image.“
There is so much support out there to help us stay true to ourselves and "Live What You Love". Not everyone understands this concept, but after learning more about it myself, I am a much happier person.