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Wife Having a Cyber Affair
In the SHM Community Forums, a member raised his concern about forgiveness and moving on after he found out that his wife got cyber affairs. Jimmy answered: I have to chime in with the rest of the folks here, but to add one more thing. Kubler-Ross talks about the stages of dealing with death and loss. In a way, your dream of a perfect, unbesmirched marriage is dead. You and your wife...
Read MoreCalling it Quits When Your Lover Repeatedly Acts Like a Jerk
In the SHM Community Forums, Joanne responded to one member's concern of being depressed caused by her relationship dilemmas with her boyfriend. She said: This is an early relationship in your life, and with time, you will come to see it as a bad experience, something to avoid. You will be able to spot a guy like this from a hundred paces.When someone goes back and forth on you, they will...
Read MoreCoping With Guilt After the Death of a Loved One
Hi Frank, you are certainly remembered (with great fondness and as being someone who has given a great deal of himself here – you've certainly helped me before). And it is good to see you back. I am sorry for your loss; the grieving process itself is difficult without adding the guilt you mention to it. As you know, I'm no expert so I'll just say what comes to mind OK? (And...
Read MoreHeterosexuals: Standing Up for Gays
Jimmy shared an enlightening post in the SHM Community Forums about heterosexuals standing up for gay rights. He wrote: This editorial by Dr. Klein madem stop and think. Is it true that I need to come out of my safe little closet? I think it is. Hmmm. Standing up for gays. What would that mean for each and every one of us who believes in our heart that gays have the right to choose their life...
Read MoreSexual Orientation: Are You Straight or Gay?
In the SHM Community Forums, Dini responded to one member's concern of being confused about his sexual orientation. "Am I gay?", he asked. Dini answered: Hi Jimbob and welcome, Glad you are able to express yourself here. As a "straight" guy (whatever that means on what I believe is the very broad spectrum of human sexuality – it's just a label, like any other)...
Read MoreTelling Your Parents About Your Sexual Orientation
In the SHM Community forums, Joanne responded to one member about her problem on how to tell her parents that she is a bi. She wrote: mirmi, You've covered a lot of ground since you first showed up here! Awesome movement on your part! Have you heard from your parents at all? Are they living together or are you dealing with two separate and non-communicating parties? I'm lesbian, have...
Read MoreCoping with Depression
In the SHM Community Forums, Joanne responded to one member's concern about his extreme depression. She answered: Your reply certainly isn't too much. It is very helpful, actually. It is clear that you know you are suffering from depression, and that you've had this depression on and off much of your life. When you were a child, it took the form of anger. Justifiable anger, but...
Read MoreDo Children Have Orgasms?
In the Community SHM Forums, Manuel responded to one forum member who was worried about her 5 year old kid who seemed to have some sexual reactions while doing sexual actions like thumping and rubbing. He wrote: Self stimulation is normal and natural, just like picking your nose or scratching your butt. However, our particular society (and many others but not all) consider it unacceptable, so...
Read MoreCommon Anxiety Treatments
In the SHM Community Forums, Manuel shared his thoughts about anxiety and treatment. He wrote: A friend of mine sent me an email question about anxiolitics, also known as anti-anxiety medication. I wrote her the answer below, then thought I might drop it into the SHM Anxiety Forum, in case some of you might be interested in some of this information. Feel free to ask me any questions. I know a...
Read MoreHelpless Liar
In the SHM Community Forums, Frank shared some thoughts on how a helpless member can use our forum to lessen her lying tendencies. He wrote: I like the FIREWOMAN nickname Dini has given you, so I will use that one for you, too, ok? First, I welcome and also commend you on coming here and admitting your need for help. Second, I have an idea that might be stupid, but then again it might not....
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