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Cheat For Revenge On A Cheater

In the SHM Community Forum, Joanne responded to one member who had an unhealthy desire for revenge on his wife and at the same time, would really like to know why she doesn't love him anymore. She says: Ok, Mr. revenge-above-everything-else, let's say your plan works beautifully and she sees you with someone else. Then what? Do you think the pain in her eyes will someday just vanish?...

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Abusive Boyfriend

In the SHM Community Forums, Dini responded to one member who had been physically abused by his boyfriend because of a past relationship. He wrote: Hi Monica, I am sorry you are in such pain. I believe Annette and Gregg are right about abusers, whether physical or emotional; it is about control (having the family's member's BF stand "guard" at the door?) and he will try to...

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On-Off Relationship

In the community forums, Joanne advised a woman who was concerned about a guy who keeps on hurting her emotionally with their on-off relationship. The woman felt terribly depressed. She wrote: This is an early relationship in your life, and with time, you will come to see it as a bad experience, something to avoid. You will be able to spot a guy like this from a hundred paces. When someone goes...

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Lost in Love

In the SHM Community Forums, Dini responded to one member who got issues with someone who makes her happy but just doesn't fit to be loved by her. He said: Hi Elleana, First, I admire your honesty here. Takes courage to lay it out like you have and that's something to give yourself credit for…..thumbs down I'm a pretty firm believer in communication being the key to ANY...

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Sexual Information for Teens

In the community forums, Jimmy shared a good book that forum members might want to check out. He wrote: Roger Libby has been a sexologist for thirty years–before the audience for his new book was born. "The Naked Truth About Sex: A Guide to Intelligent Sexual Choices for Teenagers and Twentysomethings" tells them exactly what they need to know about sexual orientation,...

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Are You A Selfish Wife?

In the SHM forums, Joanne responded to one member who felt guilty about not giving her all to her husband. She said: C, I find myself reluctant to write to you because I react strongly to your name. So if you don't mind, I won't greet you by "Chronic". Is that ok?? I went to a 2 week personal growth workshop once and we had to give ourselves names. People named themselves all...

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