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Elements of Good Psychotherapy: Trusting Relationship

First and foremost, good psychotherapy begins with a good relationship. You and the therapist like each other. You both look forward to seeing each other and trust it will be a positive experience, even if the session is hard, if you leave crying or angry. You know you've been heard and that no matter what you've been discussing, as long as you aren't screaming at or otherwise...

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Seeing Things in a Positive Light and What to Do About It

In the SHM Community Forums, Dini sympathized with one member who badly needs encouraging words amidst the crazy drama of her life. He said: Welcome to these forums. If you stick around and are as honest as you are being here, I think you'll find some honest, compassionate people around here who are very, very helpful. I know I have found that to be true. I see you've already done...

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Hating Yourself

In the SHM Forums, Dini responded to one member's concern who's struggling to find some answers on why don't he like himself. He wrote: Sounds like you're having a tough time. I'm just an amateur here but it's hard to respond meaningfully without some sort of specifics. You say you "really don't like" yourself. Can you say why? What is it about...

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Losing One's Cheerfulness

In the SHM Community Forums, Manuel shared his thoughts with one forum member who wanted to know why did he change from a happy person to cynical, socially unfit, angry person. He said: Sarah, I also want to welcome you to these forums and can completely understand your wanting earlier, simpler times. Its normal to want the peace of innocence. If you are plagued by the recent past, you have many...

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SURVIVAL GUIDE for Adulthood?

In the SHM Community Forums, Jimmy shared his SURVIVAL GUIDE for adulthood for when the going gets tough. He said: JG, I give you credit for making the decision to post here. When life is so overwhelming that you can't attend a support group meeting or revival without doubting yourself, it is time to be sure you are plugged into a therapist and physician that you like and respect, and that...

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Passing of Time

In the SHM Community Forums, Dini shares his thoughts about the passing of time and the need of living each moment with awareness.  He wrote: Since I have a birthday in a few days, which I'm not feeling great about, but that's because I'm not feeling great about much of anything at the moment, I guess I'll chime in here. Miss not "the body" of a young man but the...

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