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Reasonable Definition of Internet Pornography

In the SHM Community Forums, Jimmy shared one study that discusses the demand of internet pornography in Great Britain. He wrote: A new study by Nielsen NetRatings about internet pornography use in Great Britain is now published. It reports that more than 9 million men, almost 40% of the male British population, used pornographic websites last year. This is four times the number in 2000, which is...

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Porn and Self-Gratification as Stress Relief

To answer the question of one forum member: "Are porn and self-gratification primarily subconscious relief of tension for my boyfriend?", Joanna answered… Hello Dana! Welcome to our forums. To begin answering your question about stress relieving, yes indeed, masturbation (to whatever stimuli) is a stress reliever for many people (men and women). The damage of course occurs when...

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Helping a Molest Survivor

Here's a response from Jimmy to an SHM forum member who is trying to help his girlfriend who is a molest survivor. Jimmy said: As for your question about why a father would molest his daughter, you bring up a very serious and important issue. Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you care so much about her that you are trying to understand what has happened. It is often by talking and...

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On Reasonable Porn Use

In the SHM Community Forums, a member asked: "How much cyber-porn is ok?". Joanna wrote: It's not about a number, but about how you and your marriage partner define "fidelity" in your marriage. For example, if you both agree that 50 lap dances are ok, then 50 are ok. You just need to stay within the bounds of your agreement to make the relationship work. All successful...

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Sherri Williams, Sex Toy Activist

Jimmy wrote: Dr. Marty Klein has released another series of brief exposes. Here is one that seems best suited for the SHM Politics category. What's are your thoughts? __ For nine years the state of Alabama has insisted that Sherri Williams is a criminal. And so she has taken the state to court over and over during those nine years. She has won a handful of times, only to have the state...

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Rapists and How to Protect Yourself

Lily wrote: I just got this in email today and want to pass it along to you: A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts: 1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be...

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