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Cyber Relationship: Cheating or Not?

In the SHM Community Forums, Frank responded to one member who had a partner who gave her a reason to believe that his cyber affair is for the good of their relationship. He said: He is confused and needs help. He did it for himself primarily. If he won't go, he won't go. That's something for you to consider when you decide whether to stay with him. This episode will pass, but his...

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Wife Having a Cyber Affair

In the SHM Community Forums, a member raised his concern about forgiveness and moving on after he found out that his wife  got cyber affairs. Jimmy answered: I have to chime in with the rest of the folks here, but to add one more thing. Kubler-Ross talks about the stages of dealing with death and loss. In a way, your dream of a perfect, unbesmirched marriage is dead. You and your wife...

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Distressed with Boyfriend's Cyber Affair

Jimmy empathized with one SHM Forum member who is very distressed about her boyfriend's cyber-affair. He wrote: You are not alone in your struggle. You might want to read Dr. Maheu's book about this topic. It is called 'Infidelity on the Internet.' She is the one who set up the website you are on, and she wrote the book because many visitors have come here to look for answers...

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Cyber Affairs: Roadblocks Between You and Your Addiction

In the SHM Forums, Jimmy responded to the concern of one member about his willingness to confront his cybersex addiction with the help of his wife. He said: The truth will set you free. Congratulations to you and to your wife. You both have a winning attitude is seem to be working together as a team. You already are doing many things right. Joining that support group, calling your EAP for...

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Reasonable Definition of Internet Pornography

In the SHM Community Forums, Jimmy shared one study that discusses the demand of internet pornography in Great Britain. He wrote: A new study by Nielsen NetRatings about internet pornography use in Great Britain is now published. It reports that more than 9 million men, almost 40% of the male British population, used pornographic websites last year. This is four times the number in 2000, which is...

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Online Affair – Choices that Hurt

A wife and mother had a cyber-affair, talked about being devastated and hurt, and didn't know what to do. Jimmy responded in the SHM Discussion Forums: It is reasonable that you feel hurt. It is also reasonable that you feel guilty. You did a shameful thing by cheating on your husband, whether it was a real affair or a cyber-affair because you went behind his back and indulged your...

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