Setting Boundaries with Sister
Posted on 28. Dec, 2007 by SHM Staff in Care-giving
Frank wrote that he was concerned that he was being overly involved with his sister's care when she returned from treatment for ovarian cancer. Frank recently gave us an update:
I've been able to put up better limits thanks to some of the ideas I got here from y'all. I don't go running over immediately when she or anyone else calls me. I don't answer my cell phone without checking who is calling, and when she calls, I make it a point to wait a few minutes and call her back. She is calling less and less so I think delaying her is helping her think through how she can help herself before automatically calling me. These are small changes but I feel much less pressured by her and her needs. I really do love her and don't want to resent her anymore.
What good boundaries have you recently set with a loved one?
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Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
Marlene
02. Mar, 2009
If a sibling of mine is sick with a disease, as much as possible I would want to be by her/his side. A disease can make a person needy and weepy and as such I would want to give my sibling my full support. This is the time when the sick sibling needs me the most and I don't have the heart to turn her away.