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What to Do If Your Child is Violent

Welcome to our community.  Children speak in many convoluted and muffled ways. Given the information you've provided, I would speak to a professional about this. Obviously she is trying to communicate something too profound for her words to capture. You are a tuned in parent who seems to be listening. Only a professional who sits with your daughter will be able to get at the real meaning of...

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Seeking Help for Drug and Alcohol Addiction

In the SHM Community Forums, Dini responded to one member who helplessly sought an advice on what to do about her addiction to drugs and alcohol. He said: Hi Cat65, Welcome to these forums. There are plenty of decent, kind, wise and compassionate people around here who will respond to you with honesty just as you have so honestly described your own situation in your post. I admire the kind of...

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Restitution & Making Amends: When Apology Is Not Enough

In the SHM Community Forums, Dini responded to one member who is worried because he had inadvertently hurt his co-worker with a joke. He wrote: Frances, First of all glad to "meet" you; I don't believe I've had the honor.  Glad you came here for support; I haven't been around long but find that there are insightful, supportive folks around here. And you sound like one...

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Sad and Hopeless: Where Do You Start?

In the SHM Community Forums, Jimmy advised one member  who is so sad, hopeless and trapped in the feeling of loneliness. He wrote: Most importantly, welcome to these forums. There are some good people here, if you care to come back every now and then and read what's here, both from answers people give you and what others have written before you. Your writing says a lot about you. The first...

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Infidelity and A Cyber Affair

In the SHM Forums, Jimmy responded to one member who had an affair for the reason of wanting  to love and to be loved. Jimmy wrote: Topaz, I am deeply moved by your post and not sure what to answer. The subject line of your posts reads:  Why does it hurt so much… All I can say is that only God knows exactly how much you hurt, yet to me, your post screeches with pain. Please let me ask you...

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Overeating: Emotional Eating

In the SHM Community Forums, Lily responded to one member who had a compulsive eating disorder that left him frustrated, confused and depressed. She wrote: Cookiemonster and Joanne and Annette, I have been finding myself binge eating since mid December and it scares me, too. I haven't gained any weight so it I'm not as out of control as in the past, but I know I am emotional eating. I...

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Bisexual Husband and Porn Addiction

In the SHM Community Forums, Lily shared some suggestions to one bisexual member who is addicted to porn. She wrote: Steve, Your giving details about your addiction has helped me get a much better sense of what's going on. Given the amount of time you've been engaging in these online sexual activities and the pain you sound like you are creating for both yourself and your relationship...

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At One's Wit's End

In the SHM Community Forums, Joanne responded to one member who seemed to be overwhelmed and hopeless about all that was happening. She wrote: Moco, You are saying too much with too few words. I can't be sure what you are meaning. What do you do when you've tried all you can? I usually cry, and then try some more. But it depends on the situation. What are you describing? What have you...

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How To End Your Marriage and Leave Your Spouse

In the SHM Community forums, Manuel wrote a response for a wife who doesn't love his husband anymore but never had the guts to leave her marriage. He said: Christian, He might be crying because now he feels pain, whereas before he shut himself down to your pain. My are like that. Pain is only real when it's their pain. Men often cry as a last-ditch resort to make you come back. When he...

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New Life After Divorce

In the SHM Community Forums, Jimmy responded to one member who's concerned about getting her life back after a divorce. He said: Alittleunsure, Welcome to these forums! You do seem like you have yourself together, and you are making great use of therapy. Your taking the time you need to settle in, make friends and learn to know yourself before dating is some of the best, most well-considered...

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