The part of me that isn't content is a part I recognize - a bit of ambition, and a bit of greed. Ambition's a healthy impulse, and greed isn't, so it takes a little doing to sort it all out. The secret to contentment, I'm told, is to want what you have, simply that. But as Marie Ebner von Eschenback pointed out a century ago, "To be content with little is hard, to be content with much, impossible". It seems that the more you have of things, of opportunities, even of education, the more you want.

Once that's gone, so is any chance at contentment. Greed simply kills it. If you've ever wondered why the poets celebrate the contentment of the poor, this explains it. Once the appetites are whetted, satisfaction is elusive indeed.

Ambition is, as I've said, a more healthy impulse. Henry Ward Beecher's comment is very helpful: "We are not to make the ideas of contentment and aspiration quarrel, for God made them fast friends. A man may aspire, and yet be quite content until it is time to raise; and both flying and resting are parts of one contentment."

So, the secret is in the timing, and I may yet learn to paint, once the writing is done. Because all of us are multi-talented, we can benefit by learning to focus, turning our attention, ambition, and aspiration to one talent, then the next, then the next, in due season, building a rich and contented life layer by layer.

I think the chances are better of living that rich and contented life if we spend a little time burrowing into each layer, exploring, nurturing, detailing, and savoring it. Sometimes in the most unlikely circumstances real contentment lurks just below the surface. Helen Keller found this to be true. "Everything had its wonder, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein, to be content."

Let's take the layer you may be in right now, perhaps adjusting to family changes, perhaps learning to fit in at a new school or a new job. It would be easy to hurry past any transitional stage, to long for stability. If you're a young person, it may be that the adult years look ever so secure and reliable to you. And yet, the curiosity you share now, the innocent take on family, local, and national events, the ability to evaluate people's intentions, are real treasures worthy of study and celebration.

If you'll spend a little time capturing your thoughts and feelings, even writing them in a journal, you won't overlook the valuable insights you have, right on the tip of your tongue. And maybe, just maybe, you'll be a bit more contented with being who you are right now, at this age and in this place.

I'll try to do the same. There are days I'm tempted to un-retire, go back to "being somebody" full-time again, to the competitive rush and the fat paychecks and the constant pressure. But it passes, and I know that this, for the moment, is enough, to write and walk and swim and seek, to love and live this way, right here, right now, in precarious and precious contentment.

Workbook Questions:

1. What is the best part of the life stage you are in now? How can you enjoy it more fully?
2. Have you ever experienced intense greed and craving? What led to it? Did it result in happiness? How have you overcome it?
3. Who is the most contented person you know? Could you ask that person to talk about what gives them that deep level of satisfaction?
4. What can you do today to begin to raise that level of participation in all life has to offer?
5. Who do you admire that lives life to the fullest, and what can you learn from that person?

Adapted from: "Contentment". In L.A. Trapp, (2008). Intentional Living; Lessons from the Tree of Life. Puerto Vallarta, Abbott Publications.

References:

• Partnow, E., (Ed.) (1977). The Quotable Woman. Los Angeles, Pinnacle Books, Inc.
• Seligman, M.E.P., (2002). Authentic Happiness. New York, Free Press.

About the Author:

Dr. Linda Abbott Trapp writes from Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. A former Dean at the California School of Professional Psychology, Certified Speaking Professional, and owner of the consulting firm Abbott & Associates, she's an internationally known speaker who has authored seven books and more than 250 articles, columns, and reviews. Her recent books can be previewed at: www.abbottpub.com.