by Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D.
Question: Do you have any tips for falling out of love?
I'm going to assume from your question that you are talking about a relationship which ended badly for you. The main theme for "falling out of love" under such circumstances is the theme of healing. So you might want to consider the following:
- Be aware that you have some grieving to do. Even if the relationship ended in anger, it is still a loss.
- Part of the grieving process involves getting some clarity in two areas: a. an honest assessment of your role in the problems; b. acknowledging that which you did well in the relationship.
- Be compassionate with yourself. Say some affirmations. Do an act of kindness for yourself. Nurture yourself a little.
- Do some journalling. Write angry letters that you don't mail
- Don't be in a big hurry to get into another relationship. Take some time to heal.
About the Author:
Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in El Paso, TX. He is the author of three books on psychology and spirituality.
Originally published 3/6/99
Revised 04/27/2009 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
Revised 04/27/2009 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
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