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My Husband Has Been Entering Sexual Chat Rooms

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by Dr. Al Cooper and Dr. Coralie Scherer

 
Question: I just found that my husband has been entering sexual chat rooms and talking with other women about sex. I say this violates the vows of our marriage and is the same as an affair. He says I'm being ridiculous and he is "just experimenting." Who is right?

This is an increasingly common question--what are the boundaries of fidelity in today's world of cybersex, phone sex, etc.?

Since you didn't send a copy of your vows we can't make an informed judgment about your situation. A little humor--but seriously, only you and he can decide on what fidelity means to you, what your contract is, and what you both want in your marriage. Have a long, calm, dialogue and if you get stuck you may need to find a good psychologist to help you hammer out a solution that fits for you both.

About the Author:

Dr. Al Cooper, was the clinical director at the San Jose Marital and Sexuality Centre (408-248-9737) and ran the training program for Counseling and Psychological Services at Stanford University. Dr. Cooper was internationally known for his work in sexuality.

Dr. Coralie Scherer coordinates online services for the Centre and specializes in sexual trauma, women's issues, and marital therapy.

Originally published 3/18/98
Revised 1/26/09 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.

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hardik
Posted on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 12:42

Well dear, Most of the husbands are want to see her partner as her girlfriend for ever.. but after marrage the girl are not acting like GF. as before. But you have time and can convert your loving husband to your way by impressing him, do warring the sexy dresses; making such his favorite dishes, doing some sexual pose in front him and ya, give him and see the result. I must say that after that he require you.

Mona
Posted on Thu, 07/02/2009 - 18:33

this is great!