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by Dr. Al Cooper and Dr. Coralie Scherer

We can see how you might get these two confused, especially if you look at it from the end point. A man experiencing either of these conditions comes away from a sexual encounter with a limp penis, doubts about his ability to please his partner (and often himself), and a general sense of dissatisfaction -- if not downright depression.

However, the differences are in the roots of the problems. Premature or rapid ejaculation results from a man not feeling in control of the timing of his ejaculation. Erection problems arise from difficulties in not getting hard or staying hard.

Some contributors to the former may be sexual inexperience, extreme excitement, or being conditioned to orgasm rapidly. The latter, we are finding more and more often, have some kind of physiological contributor such as medication side effects, nerve damage, or circulation compromise as well as psychological concerns about performance or mood. So consider the source in clarifying these confounding conditions.

Look in our article section for a more in-depth discussion and possible ways to help.

About the Author:

Dr. Al Cooper, was the clinical director at the San Jose Marital and Sexuality Centre (408-248-9737) and ran the training program for Counseling and Psychological Services at Stanford University. Dr. Cooper was internationally known for his work in sexuality.

Dr. Coralie Scherer coordinates online services for the Centre and specializes in sexual trauma, women's issues, and marital therapy.