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Long Distance Relationships? Tips on Love Across the Miles
by Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D.
Maintaining a long-distance relationship is a difficult task. There is loneliness, self-doubt, even fear ("Can I trust him/her to remain faithful?") Having thoughts about another relationship is certainly a normal response to the loneliness.
Having sexual feelings toward someone else is also certainly normal. Acting on those thoughts and feelings is a different matter. Cheating undermines any relationship.
Not only is there guilt to contend with, but there is the uncomfortable task of dealing with deception. Maintaining a deception can sometimes be a formidable task in itself.
You and your significant other need to have an honest discussion about this relationship. What can be done to maintain the relationship?
How do you each feel about the other person possibly seeing someone else? Yes, honesty is always risky but for the long term it beats getting into a quagmire of guilt and deception. Long distance relationships can work, if you work at them.
About the Author:
Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in El Paso, TX. He is the author of three books on psychology and spirituality.
Revised 06/19/2010 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
I agree with Dr. Patterson's advice. Looking and touching are two very different things. But if you are going to cheat, then whats the point of being in a relationship? Break up with the person before you start moving on to someone else.