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Can't Sleep? 15 Proven Tips for Insomnia

by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.

Marsha had been suffering from insomnia for a long time. She's tried just about everything that folk wisdom and her beloved Grandmother taught her - counting sheep, warm milk before bed, reading, rubbing her feet and rubbing her head. She's spent a fortune on relaxation tapes, mood music, as well as a computer self-hypnosis program that just seems to wake her up and make her dizzy more than put her to sleep. All too many nights, she lays in bed, listening to her partner snore, while she tosses, turns, gets up and reads Internet self-help articles about what to do!

The science of psychology has a lot to say about what works and doesn't work for people like Marsha. Those who struggle with insomnia and other sleep problems often benefit from a range of solutions, rather than a single cure. Here are some facts for you to consider while you think about your own sleep disturbances.

I. Insomnia can be caused by a variety of conditions including: change, stress, physical pain, trauma, illness, and emotions, PTSD, death of a loved one, or recurrent thoughts.

II. Insomnia can come on at any stage in life. Old sleep habits might need to be changed or altered to be successful at overcoming insomnia. Returning to more natural rhythms and habits can take time. Be patient. If you've had a lifelong problem with sleep, you unfortunately may not find an overnight cure. There is no immediate solution unless you want to take medicine, which can often lead to a wide range of other serious problems. The goal of this article is to help you make sensible decisions regarding the role of sleep in your life, and return to more natural, reasonable ways of approaching and thinking about sleep.

III. 15 Tips to Overcome Insomnia

  1. RETINAL STIMULATION - make it a point to go outside and stimulate your retinas (eyes) for about 15 minutes a day with sunlight. This "full on" light exposure can help restore your body's natural sleep/night cycle, also known as the "circadian rhythm." Looking straight into the sun is never a good idea, but being in an area where you receive the full brightness of the sun around you is what's recommended.
  2. NO NAPS – Avoid naps during the day. If you sleep during the day, your body may not be as tired as necessary to get to sleep at night.
  3. COOL ROOM - Keep the temperature in your room cool and comfortable.
  4. WAKING ACTIVITIES – Don’t participate in waking activities while in bed, like watching TV, eating, talking on the telephone, texting your friends, or using your laptop. Remember, bed has traditionally been for sleep. Train yourself to limit your bed-related activities, and your body will begin to associate your bed with sleepiness. Reading in bed is different. Reading can help you focus your mind, especially if what you read is boring. Save the murder mysteries for daytime and pick up a boring book for sleep. Reading in bed is an age-old trick for quickly getting to sleep.
  5. GO TO BED AT REGULAR TIME – There's no easy answer to the problem of being too tired during day-time and not tired enough at bed-time. Nonetheless, most experts agree that it is most helpful for you to go to bed at a regular, planned time. If you need to sleep more, it's better for you to go to bed at your regular time and get up earlier. With time, your body should re-adjust and give you the hours you need. Be careful about driving or operating machinery when not fully rested, though. If you feel tired to the point of losing visual focus, you should definitely not be operating heavy machinery - no matter what. When not sleeping well for a period of time, ask someone else to drive you to work, if you can.
  6. DON’T EXERCISE (<3 HOURS) – Don’t exercise within three hours of trying to fall asleep – this raises the heartrate. Slow stretching on the other hand might be just what the doctor ordered to get your body slowed down and feeling good.
  7. DON’T EAT STIMULATING FOODS (<3 HOURS) – Don’t eat stimulating foods within three hours of trying to fall asleep – lying horizontally interrupts digestion and may cause heartburn. Also, eating high fat and carbohydrate foods might help make you groggy and help you fall asleep, but calorie-conscious people may need to weigh the benefits of such an approach to insomnia.
  8. AVOID STIMULANTS (<2-3 hours) – Avoid all stimulants such as caffeinated and nicotine in cigarettes. Caffeinated products include coffee, tea, sodas, and especially colas. Even some aspirin or other headache remedies often contain caffeine! "Energy drinks", Mountain Dew and a wide variety of other "energy bars" or supplements often contain a high amount of stimulating products. Check your vitamin and other supplements to make sure none of them are stimulating as well. (Look them up on an Internet search engine if you are unsure.) Check labels to see if products like aspirin are in any other product you take before bed. It is a surprise to many people to learn that even cigarettes can be stimulating when you are tired. Stay away from all these substances if you want a good night's sleep.
  9. AVOID LIQUIDS. (<2 HOURS) - many people are just simply drinking too many fluids before sleep. Parents with bedwetting children learn to curtail all liquids about 2 hours before sleep, thereby allowing the child's body to void excess liquids about 30-60 minutes before actual bed-time. Well, adults have the same pattern of voiding as children. If liquids are taken before sleep, those liquids create an urgency to urinate that can awaken the adult. While that adult usually has enough bladder control to get to the bathroom, they often do not have the ability to get back to sleep. Stop drinking before sleep, and see if you stop waking up to urinate.
  10. WIND DOWN (<90 MINS) - 90 minutes before you go to bed, wind own your day and don’t participate in anxiety-inducing activities like checking your mail, email or even watching the evening news.
  11. WRITE DOWN CONCERNS (<30 MINS) - Spend a few minutes before bed at night writing down your concerns and stresses, then hopes or things you’re thankful for, so that you can give your mind a rest while you are sleeping.
  12. CALMING MUSIC/SELF-HYPNOSIS - Listen to calming music, white noise, self-hypnosis or a "brain recalibration" tape for sleep. Such tapes are scientifically designed to help you "reset" your brain and calm down. When developed by researchers rather than marketers, they are remarkably effective. Just be sure to buy your brain recalibration audios from reputable sleep companies, and not slick marketing companies.
  13. GET UP IF YOU CAN"T SLEEP – If you can’t fall asleep after 15-20 minutes get out of bed.
  14. AVOID BRIGHT LIGHTS – if you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t get back to sleep within 30 minutes, get up but avoid as much light as possible. Light will only stimulate your brain’s day/night balance (circadian cycle). Avoid computer-based hypnosis programs just prior to going to bed for the same reason. The light emitted from a computer screen is intense. Any strong light is more likely to stimulate and wake your nervous system.
  15. REDIRECT NIGHTMARES/BAD THOUGHTS – If you have a nightmare or stress-inducing thoughts, focus on a different ending. Write down your nightmare, or tell someone else about it to stop the continual thoughts.

The goal of this article was to help you find the right self-diagnosis for your specific underlying problem.
If you are doing all 15 suggestions above and still have sleep problems, it's time to call a professional. Contact a physician or psychotherapist who specializes in sleep.

If you still can't sleep well after a few months of working with your sleep specialist, ask your doctor for a formal "sleep study." Be sure that study doesn't just check to see if you have "sleep spnea"> If you're going to go to the hassle of a sleep study, be sure they check for all possible sources of your difficulty and not just one. Most insurance carriers will pay for such a study of it is requested by a licensed specialist.

If your sleep study suggests a "C-PAP" machine, try it. While it can be off-putting at first, most people can successfully adjust to it and find it to be enormously helpful if they have sleep apnea.

Avoid sleep medication, as this might create a dependency and only prolong your sleep problems. Some classes of such medications are far worse than others. For example, if your doctor tries to give you benzodiazepines for long-term sleep problems, run for the hills. Benzodiazepines have some of the most negative withdrawal symptoms of any other class of medication. In fact, withdrawal from heroine has been documented to pale in comparison to some withdrawal from long-term use of ativan, klonipin or valium.

Keep yourself honest by asking your loved ones for feedback about your sleep habits. Ask any one who lives with you for their honest opinion regarding how you might or might not be adhering to the full list of suggestions above.

Everyone has a different underlying reason why they are having sleeping problems. Experiment with the above 15 steps and see what works for you.

References:
1. "Several Sleep Disorders Reflect Gender Differences". http://pn.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/42/10/40. Retrieved 2008-08-29.
2. Mendelson WB (2008). "New Research on Insomnia: Sleep Disorders May Precede or Exacerbate Psychiatric Conditions". Psychiatric Times 25 (7). http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/insomnia/article/10168/1163082.
3. Kripke DF, Garfinkel L, Wingard DL, Klauber MR, Marler MR (February 2002). "Mortality associated with sleep duration and insomnia". Arch. Gen. Psychiatry 59 (2): 131–6. PMID 11825133. http://archpsyc.ama-assn.org/cgi/content/full/59/2/131.
4. Kirkwood CK (1999). "Management of insomnia". J Am Pharm Assoc 39 (5): 688–96; quiz 713–4. PMID 10533351.
5. Jacobs, Gregg; Edward F. Pace-Schott, Robert Stickgold, Michael W. Otto (September 27, 2004). "Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Pharmacotherapy for Insomnia: A Randomized Controlled Trial and Direct Comparison". Archives of Internal Medicine 164 (17): 1888–1896. doi:10.1001/archinte.164.17.1888. PMID 15451764. http://archinte.ama-assn.org/cgi/content/full/164/17/1888?ijkey=6a2af558....
6. KARL E. MILLER, M.D. (July 2005). "Cognitive Behavior Therapy vs. Pharmacotherapy for Insomnia". American Family Physician. http://www.aafp.org/afp/20050715/tips/7.html.

About the Author:

Dr. Maheu is an licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and researcher.

She is the lead author of "E-Health, Telehealth & Telemedicine: A Guide to Program Startup and Success" co-written with Pamela Whitten and Ace Allen, published by Jossey-Bass: San Francisco.
She has also been the author for these books: "Infidelity on the Internet" and "The Mental Health Professional and the New Technologies."

Originally published 4/15/98
Revised 8/31/09 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
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But i have try all of this it dos not help i only sleep for 10 hr every 4 days it is 4 days up 10 hr asleep then repeat

repub (not verified) | Fri, 10/02/2009 - 08:41

I just can't sleep full stop I have tried everything!!! When I go to bed at night it's hell! I lie there until about 7 or 8 in the morning then I will finally go to sleep but only for a couple of hours any advice? I have tried Reading, warm milk, counting I have a regular bed time. I don't eat or drink before bed? Please help!!!!

confused!!! (not verified) | Fri, 10/02/2009 - 03:28

Try masturbating...works for me.

Doh! (not verified) | Mon, 09/28/2009 - 13:50

i cant sleep at all...i mean i would stay up till 4 or even 5 in the morning feeling DEADLY TIRED i couldn't open my eyes or go out of bed because i am soooo tired. However, for some wierd reason i couldn't sleep i don't know why?? its really bugging me especially in colledge when i have exams and all that. the only solution i am looking for is 'evolution" evolving in a way were my body recovers and grows without sleep (i know impossible but i tried everything).

majd (not verified) | Sat, 09/26/2009 - 22:18

they seems very great ideas. now am gonna try them wish me good luck

noosa (not verified) | Fri, 09/25/2009 - 02:58

Well,my sleeping problem started ah few years ago..I really don't understand y..it has been the most stressful time in my life,but even the times that everything is good,and I'm cool calm and relaxed,I still wouldn't be able to sleep!its so damn frustrating..just the other night I was soundly asleep,and u know when u wake up for a split second in the middle of the night and fall right back into your slumber?well I woke up like at 3 and couldn't fall back to sleep for hours after.I was so mad.and even now I'm writing this after wakin up and not being able to fall back asleep,I don't know what to do..

Nelson (not verified) | Wed, 09/23/2009 - 12:02

OK you say one should eat, before sleeping but i feel that theres nothing like a full belly to get you to sleep. Many times i have got myself to sleep with a nice melted cheese sandwich . . .

sameul (not verified) | Tue, 09/22/2009 - 03:51

try late night masturbation, with you fav pornstar .

should make u a bit tired and help u sleep.

johnny (not verified) | Tue, 09/22/2009 - 02:50

I mean, I feel tired, and when I close my eyes I yawn, but I don't sleep, I yawn until my eyes water and I try changing the way my head is facing or position. I hate this, and usually I try to go to sleep at 12:00 in the summer because I mean, I'm not at school. But I end up staying with my eyes closed until... 3:05 in the morning. I end up getting frustrated and stay up. I hate staying up because my day is ruined and I have to avoid my bed at all costs.

Bruce (not verified) | Thu, 08/06/2009 - 07:09

Ive basically tried them all!!
had no luck with any
have taken ambien and lunesta........zippo on the help
not sleeping isnt any fun for those that think it might be.
i also have sleep apnea, so one doesnt help the other at all.......

sue (not verified) | Mon, 08/03/2009 - 22:40

The only thing I can say is like the overide button 2 all this is if you can get your head free of absolutely any thought! Don't think at all about anything while relaxing lied down on your bed with your eyes closed concentrate on not thinking or speaking at all in thought if you can do this for the first 5 min. Then it gets easier and by the next 5 -10 min you will be guaranteed asleep! No matter what! Try it! It won't work if you think in your brain voice at all so if your trying this and are still speaking in your mind stop! Concentrete on something like your breathing but don't talk or make a coment in your mind just listen and don't think!

Alex Green (not verified) | Thu, 07/30/2009 - 13:51

Actually, counting can be helpful, but count backwards. Starting at 100 and counting down really puts me out!

Joshua (not verified) | Tue, 07/28/2009 - 15:55

i have problems sleeping nothing works idk why i can't sleep
i when i try sleeping i get very uncomfortable in my pelves legs and heart idk know why well and i moved like three weeks ago from my house after having an anxiety attack and i smoked for three years alot though and i recently quit cause i was having breathing problems in my sleep and now i can't even sleep rite and i quit smokeing to which it's been three days idk what to do i can't relax i tryed nice long hot showers reading watching a boring movie or maybe it has to do with my anxiety can holding back emotions like crying cause i got depressed one day and cryd not alot nothing really and instantly fell asleep it's weird i think i need to go to the hospital but my family keeps saying your fine u just need to relax or your gonna get anxiety attacks again im only 19 yrs old .....

keith (not verified) | Mon, 07/27/2009 - 10:33

i have problems sleeping nothing works idk why i can't sleep
i when i try sleeping i get very uncomfortable in my pelves legs and heart idk know why well and i moved like three weeks ago from my house after having an anxiety attack and i smoked for three years alot though and i recently quit cause i was having breathing problems in my sleep and now i can't even sleep rite and i quit smokeing to which it's been three days idk what to do i can't relax i tryed nice long hot showers reading watching a boring movie or maybe it has to do with my anxiety can holding back emotions like crying cause i got depressed one day and cryd not alot nothing really and instantly fell asleep it's weird i think i need to go to the hospital but my family keeps saying your fine u just need to relax or your gonna get anxiety attacks again im only 19 yrs old idk what to do..............

kory (not verified) | Mon, 07/27/2009 - 10:29

What if you cant sleep for more than 3 hours? i watch tv while in bed though so maybe thats it

Chris (not verified) | Fri, 07/24/2009 - 11:31

I'm so tired of being tired (cheesy i know lol).
Thanks for the tips. They're awesome.

Annie (not verified) | Fri, 07/24/2009 - 09:59

When I try to sleep i cant sleep i stay up for hrs an yeah its getting annoying. when i try to sleep i think about everything i think im crazy. seriouly i think i need sleeping pills.

E.J. (not verified) | Fri, 07/17/2009 - 13:55

thanks, these sound good. i will definitely try them!

Alana (not verified) | Wed, 07/15/2009 - 04:03

thanks this helped aton!!! :)

chloe (not verified) | Tue, 07/07/2009 - 05:48

Now I know why i couldn't get to sleep, I ate a few hours before bed and player on the computer for two hours. Odd though, since I wasn't tired just whenever I closed my eyes I would start seeing myself in that game opening up chests looking for items and I was really uncomfortable. Well I'll try these tomorrow and see if they work.

*snore* (not verified) | Thu, 07/02/2009 - 07:14

Thank you very much. I think I have Insomnia, related to depression or pressure, I will try these Ideas tomorrow night and see if I can sleep. Thanks for the info.

Riley F (not verified) | Wed, 07/01/2009 - 12:27

i stil can't sleep :(

noel (not verified) | Mon, 06/29/2009 - 13:25

Thanks! I had been using the computer when I couldn't sleep, and that definitely does seem to make the problem worse. I think I'll try writing in my journal.

Adam Monsen (not verified) | Sun, 06/28/2009 - 03:37

Reading will not over stimulate your mind , it actually helps you concentrate your thoughts and keep your mind on a track, rather than thinking of other things that may keep you up.

Jamie (not verified) | Thu, 06/25/2009 - 05:46

Thanks i didnt know that the computer stimulates your brain and messes up the time of day your brain thinks it is. I was wondering why i wasnt sleepy i would always do things with bright lights in front of me (mostly video games). all i can say is my sleep is messed up.

Travis (not verified) | Tue, 06/23/2009 - 12:36

this may help me!! for some weird reason im really tired but i just cant seem to sleep!!

anna (not verified) | Sat, 06/20/2009 - 22:58

ive been going to bed at like 10 11 by myself and cant sleep til like 3 4 oclock. It is really making mad.

Anonymous (not verified) | Mon, 06/15/2009 - 17:46

I like looking at the time and then as soon as the time changes I close my eyes and see how long I can keep them closed. I have had problems sleeping for a while and this usually works for me. Also I have an iHome right next to my bed and the clock is very bright so I use my remote to cover it. Try not to sleep in in the morning it makes it harder to fall asleep. I also like to have my fan on at night the cool breeze and the noise help (and I like to do this with my heated matress pad on). Additionally I have a fishtank in my room (if there is a gap b/w the water and the falling filter water it is very relaxing). I hope these ideas help but the ones on here are a nice general base for forming your own ideas that work for you.

Anonymous (not verified) | Fri, 06/12/2009 - 04:25

laying in bed right now, cant sleep so i turned to the internet for help and all these methods use to work.but dont any longer. o well guess its time to try again

Anonymous (not verified) | Wed, 06/10/2009 - 09:33

hi
when i read this it helped me because i normally wake up in the middle of the night imagining noises that dont help me fall asleep.

Anonymous (not verified) | Mon, 06/08/2009 - 01:48

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