by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
Marsha had been suffering from insomnia for a long time. She's tried just about everything that folk wisdom and her beloved Grandmother taught her - counting sheep, warm milk before bed, reading, rubbing her feet and rubbing her head. She's spent a fortune on relaxation tapes, mood music, as well as a computer self-hypnosis program that just seems to wake her up and make her dizzy more than put her to sleep. All too many nights, she lays in bed, listening to her partner snore, while she tosses, turns, gets up and reads Internet self-help articles about what to do!
The science of psychology has a lot to say about what works and doesn't work for people like Marsha. Those who struggle with insomnia and other sleep problems often benefit from a range of solutions, rather than a single cure. Here are some facts for you to consider while you think about your own sleep disturbances.
I. Insomnia can be caused by a variety of conditions including: change, stress, physical pain, trauma, illness, and emotions, PTSD, death of a loved one, or recurrent thoughts.
II. Insomnia can come on at any stage in life. Old sleep habits might need to be changed or altered to be successful at overcoming insomnia. Returning to more natural rhythms and habits can take time. Be patient. If you've had a lifelong problem with sleep, you unfortunately may not find an overnight cure. There is no immediate solution unless you want to take medicine, which can often lead to a wide range of other serious problems. The goal of this article is to help you make sensible decisions regarding the role of sleep in your life, and return to more natural, reasonable ways of approaching and thinking about sleep.
III. 15 Tips to Overcome Insomnia
- RETINAL STIMULATION - make it a point to go outside and stimulate your retinas (eyes) for about 15 minutes a day with sunlight. This "full on" light exposure can help restore your body's natural sleep/night cycle, also known as the "circadian rhythm." Looking straight into the sun is never a good idea, but being in an area where you receive the full brightness of the sun around you is what's recommended.
- NO NAPS – Avoid naps during the day. If you sleep during the day, your body may not be as tired as necessary to get to sleep at night.
- COOL ROOM - Keep the temperature in your room cool and comfortable.
- WAKING ACTIVITIES – Don’t participate in waking activities while in bed, like watching TV, eating, talking on the telephone, texting your friends, or using your laptop. Remember, bed has traditionally been for sleep. Train yourself to limit your bed-related activities, and your body will begin to associate your bed with sleepiness. Reading in bed is different. Reading can help you focus your mind, especially if what you read is boring. Save the murder mysteries for daytime and pick up a boring book for sleep. Reading in bed is an age-old trick for quickly getting to sleep.
- GO TO BED AT REGULAR TIME – There's no easy answer to the problem of being too tired during day-time and not tired enough at bed-time. Nonetheless, most experts agree that it is most helpful for you to go to bed at a regular, planned time. If you need to sleep more, it's better for you to go to bed at your regular time and get up earlier. With time, your body should re-adjust and give you the hours you need. Be careful about driving or operating machinery when not fully rested, though. If you feel tired to the point of losing visual focus, you should definitely not be operating heavy machinery - no matter what. When not sleeping well for a period of time, ask someone else to drive you to work, if you can.
- DON’T EXERCISE (<3 HOURS) – Don’t exercise within three hours of trying to fall asleep – this raises the heartrate. Slow stretching on the other hand might be just what the doctor ordered to get your body slowed down and feeling good.
- DON’T EAT STIMULATING FOODS (<3 HOURS) – Don’t eat stimulating foods within three hours of trying to fall asleep – lying horizontally interrupts digestion and may cause heartburn. Also, eating high fat and carbohydrate foods might help make you groggy and help you fall asleep, but calorie-conscious people may need to weigh the benefits of such an approach to insomnia.
- AVOID STIMULANTS (<2-3 hours) – Avoid all stimulants such as caffeinated and nicotine in cigarettes. Caffeinated products include coffee, tea, sodas, and especially colas. Even some aspirin or other headache remedies often contain caffeine! "Energy drinks", Mountain Dew and a wide variety of other "energy bars" or supplements often contain a high amount of stimulating products. Check your vitamin and other supplements to make sure none of them are stimulating as well. (Look them up on an Internet search engine if you are unsure.) Check labels to see if products like aspirin are in any other product you take before bed. It is a surprise to many people to learn that even cigarettes can be stimulating when you are tired. Stay away from all these substances if you want a good night's sleep.
- AVOID LIQUIDS. (<2 HOURS) - many people are just simply drinking too many fluids before sleep. Parents with bedwetting children learn to curtail all liquids about 2 hours before sleep, thereby allowing the child's body to void excess liquids about 30-60 minutes before actual bed-time. Well, adults have the same pattern of voiding as children. If liquids are taken before sleep, those liquids create an urgency to urinate that can awaken the adult. While that adult usually has enough bladder control to get to the bathroom, they often do not have the ability to get back to sleep. Stop drinking before sleep, and see if you stop waking up to urinate.
- WIND DOWN (<90 MINS) - 90 minutes before you go to bed, wind own your day and don’t participate in anxiety-inducing activities like checking your mail, email or even watching the evening news.
- WRITE DOWN CONCERNS (<30 MINS) - Spend a few minutes before bed at night writing down your concerns and stresses, then hopes or things you’re thankful for, so that you can give your mind a rest while you are sleeping.
- CALMING MUSIC/SELF-HYPNOSIS - Listen to calming music, white noise, self-hypnosis or a "brain recalibration" tape for sleep. Such tapes are scientifically designed to help you "reset" your brain and calm down. When developed by researchers rather than marketers, they are remarkably effective. Just be sure to buy your brain recalibration audios from reputable sleep companies, and not slick marketing companies.
- GET UP IF YOU CAN"T SLEEP – If you can’t fall asleep after 15-20 minutes get out of bed.
- AVOID BRIGHT LIGHTS – if you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t get back to sleep within 30 minutes, get up but avoid as much light as possible. Light will only stimulate your brain’s day/night balance (circadian cycle). Avoid computer-based hypnosis programs just prior to going to bed for the same reason. The light emitted from a computer screen is intense. Any strong light is more likely to stimulate and wake your nervous system.
- REDIRECT NIGHTMARES/BAD THOUGHTS – If you have a nightmare or stress-inducing thoughts, focus on a different ending. Write down your nightmare, or tell someone else about it to stop the continual thoughts.
The goal of this article was to help you find the right self-diagnosis for your specific underlying problem.
If you are doing all 15 suggestions above and still have sleep problems, it's time to call a professional. Contact a physician or psychotherapist who specializes in sleep.
If you still can't sleep well after a few months of working with your sleep specialist, ask your doctor for a formal "sleep study." Be sure that study doesn't just check to see if you have "sleep spnea"> If you're going to go to the hassle of a sleep study, be sure they check for all possible sources of your difficulty and not just one. Most insurance carriers will pay for such a study of it is requested by a licensed specialist.
If your sleep study suggests a "C-PAP" machine, try it. While it can be off-putting at first, most people can successfully adjust to it and find it to be enormously helpful if they have sleep apnea.
Avoid sleep medication, as this might create a dependency and only prolong your sleep problems. Some classes of such medications are far worse than others. For example, if your doctor tries to give you benzodiazepines for long-term sleep problems, run for the hills. Benzodiazepines have some of the most negative withdrawal symptoms of any other class of medication. In fact, withdrawal from heroine has been documented to pale in comparison to some withdrawal from long-term use of ativan, klonipin or valium.
Keep yourself honest by asking your loved ones for feedback about your sleep habits. Ask any one who lives with you for their honest opinion regarding how you might or might not be adhering to the full list of suggestions above.
Everyone has a different underlying reason why they are having sleeping problems. Experiment with the above 15 steps and see what works for you.
References:
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About the Author:
Dr. Maheu is an licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and researcher.
She is the lead author of "E-Health, Telehealth & Telemedicine: A Guide to Program Startup and Success" co-written with Pamela Whitten and Ace Allen, published by Jossey-Bass: San Francisco.
She has also been the author for these books: "Infidelity on the Internet" and "The Mental Health Professional and the New Technologies."
Revised 8/31/09 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.











well imonly 11 but i hav been having these sleeping disorders they have kind of died down now but i dont know why but whenever i was tired i would go for a bit of a nap like i wouldnt be asleep i would just kind of lie there and listen na dusually i wouldnt b tired anymore but then when im tired like at night i would go to bed sleep soundly then wake up no alarm just wake up at 7 and then the next week 6 and then 5 and so fourth and sometimes it happens wer i like fall asleep and wake up like straight away and once i am awake thats it no more sleep till the next night its kind of not as bad now. but then sometimes likeright now ! i get extremely tired and can barelykeep my eyes open but try and stay awake bcoz i kno what will come later but sometimes i knod off well try like i just did but cant could someone please help me an d dont recommend things like cofee and alchohol and sleeping pills please bcoz like i said im 11 and ive tried talking to my mom about it and she said if it gets worse tell me and we wil go to the doctors i think it might be because im araid my bff doesnt like me too much and because im nervous about secondary school (high school) and that im excited for my friends party but please giv me some tips xxxx
I rarely get any sleep when im on vacations and i dont know why i usually take sleeping pills when i want to wake up early the next day but i feel like im to young to be taking this pills. if i wake up early one day even though i cant sleep at nights my friends tell me that its probably because i dont do anything tiring through whole the day.
OMG...I can't believe how many of us there are! I suffer from RLS, I have allergies that cause almost daily hives that itch like crazy...besides which I have dry skin that always itches. My husband snores, the dog (which I am allergic to) snores and sleeps on top of me. I have a touch of sciatica and I think I'm getting carpal tunnel syndrome. Sometimes I just hurt all over. I can't remember the last time I got in bed and went right to sleep. It is so frustrating to be so tired....get in bed....be right on the edge of sleep and ...BOING...you're awake. People who don't have this problem just don't "get it". One of my husband's friends told me today that it was all in my head. I said **** you. Of course I only slept 1 1/2 hours last night, so I was a little cranky. I couldn't eat at dinner tonight because I felt so nauseous...I had to go lay down...but I didn't fall asleep. So tonight I went to bed at 11:15pm ....and I was up again at midnight...now it is 2am. I would cry if I wasn't on Prozac.
Well, if you're reading this...you probably have trouble sleeping too. Some of the suggestions in this article are things I've haven't tried....and they make sense...so maybe there is hope. Good luck all you zombies!
i havent slept in 4 days, im 38 and the doctor says im going through my change, but also blood tests have shown that i have border line thyroid. But the doctor says that i dont need treatment yet as its only border line. So what do i do just not sleep and go mad?
I couldn't sleep ever, then I found started taking nyquil every night. That worked for a couple weeks then it lost it's effect. Then I started taking a few vicodins a night, that worked for a few weeks then that lost it's effect. I went to see my doctor and told him all of this and he said I just needed some lunesta. That has worked just fine except I find myself sleep walking every once in a while. Weird.
now on night 14 with about 5-6 hrs sleep. Thanks to the above ideas I have new options before i annoy my doc. Best advice I can give stay away from herbal tablets might as well take sweets!!!!!
Iv had trouble sleeping pretty much my entire life (24 years.) Tried everything you could think of. Sleeping pills, sleep clinics etc. Nothing Worked. I was at a local tea shop by me and they recommended i try their special blend designed for sleeping. I was pretty skeptical, but decided it couldn't hurt, and the worst thing that could happen was i would be out a couple of bucks. But i have to say it works. If you have problems sleeping, I highly recommend that you look for some type of tea combination to help. Many seem to be available online, and you might find one that actually works.
Here's a couple bible verses that I recite to myself when I can't sleep, for anyone who trusts in god to put them back to sleep :]
"In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat- for he grants sleep to those he loves" psalm 127:2
"I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, o lord, make me dwell in safety" psalm 4:8
reading this artical will make you sleep ;)
Great tips here!
I can never sleep !!
My boyfriends on vacation, when I haven't spoke to him it's 100X worse.
I've tried EVERYTHING
but nothing work :-(
I find myself real tired through out the day because I couldent sleep the night before
forgot to mention that my wife is supportive and helpful to let me sleep in the mornings. the kids used to wake me up every morning before 7.30 if i happened to be asleep... fighting the "normal" sleep pattern in any way at all makes it harder, the coffee or "energy drinks" to keep going at work help then, but create long-term problems when used as a crutch regularly...sometimes i think i'd cook and eat my own legs just to get some regular sleep pattern to work for me, if i thought it might help.
...it does seem that the first signs of "morning" bring the most intense need to sleep on a sleepless night. working any shift into late hours can make sleeping "regular" hours. I get home between 1 am and 3 am when working, and I have 4 kids (ages 10 to 4) i often can't sleep well at all, and focusing on it at all always makes it worse... i'm also a gamer, tho not very heavy into it, and yes, gaming shifts the mind's focus but gets the adrenaline and "drive" running strong. complete exhustion is both a cause and by-product of bad sleep. take advantage of it when it comes, and let yourself crash if at all possible when that happens. if you make a habit of fighting sleep it only makes the problem worse
I have just turned seventeen, and i have always had a problem with sleep. I've tried everything, seriously, and nothing works. I don't know what to do, if i'm perfectly honest... :(
It's almost 2 am on Christmas eve morning and I cannot sleep at all. I went to sleep early because I was so tired at around 9 PM, and then I woke right back up at barely midnight. I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm so so so tired, but my mind is restless and I don't know how to help it. I'll try to go back to sleep but I'm pretty sure my insomnia is in the way again.
yes i agree about no caffeine and tabacco and masterbation really works but my problem is stress or my mind is in overdrive. i don't think that writing things down is going to work plus that leaves evidence that ppl can read and it's really none of anyones business. I have a nosey roommate so she can read it and be all up in my sh## so writhing things down is not an option and causes more stress. what next.
thank you for this study. i've had problems sleeping for as long as i can remember. i wasent aware that i actually had bad habits. at this point i am desperate, and willing to try anything.
Ive tried all of this, and then some.
my dr even had me on sleeping pills for a while.. but nothing works.
in the last 2 weeks, ive pulled 5 all nighters, because i just cant sleep! the latest one, being last night.
and even if i try to stay awake now, so that i can sleep tonight.. yea.. that wont happen either. :(
There are a lot of reasons why I can't sleep. My mind runs wild at night, not just stress either. Not to mention I have RLS, I itch all night, a different spot every 10-20 seconds all over my body, it drives me bonkers. It's not that I'm actually itching, it just feels like it. Also, I've taken every OTC sleep aid on the market from the "PM" pills, benadryl and even Ambien. But, if I can't sleep, I never take more than directed, not to keen on waking up dead. It's to the point where I go to bed about 7AM or later and sleep until about 3PM almost everyday. Talk about sleeping your day away. Every now and again I won't be able to sleep for 2-4 days without being tired. There is one thing that I do that will put me to sleep every time and that's smoking weed. Problem is, it's illegal and kind of hard to get a job with dirty pee. Plus, after smoking for more than a month my sweat smells like weed. Not a good look. Kind of hurts my pockets in hard times as well. I've tried every self help step out there except from being punched in the face by Kimbo Slice!! NO clue what to try next.
Try Masturbation !!!! LOFL....I tried that, afraid to say it didn't work, trust me, i tried it several times.
it's only natural not to sleep on a stupid schedule
to hell with waking up at 5 every day for work or school
I can't sleep because my winter allergies are starting up. I went to bed at 12 am and woke up at 3 am. That was an hour ago. I have school today, so this isn't good. :(
An interesting topic. I surely had gained an idea.
ahahahaha, nice article.
Yeah, i agree to "doh", Masturbating works very well, even if it may seem perverted or anything, But if you masturbate while not thinking about anything, You will eventually fall asleep, Since if you masturbate, your body feels more relaxed in some cases.
I can't sleep at all and I find it really frustrating because I get so tired. I have school in the morning, I don't know how I am meant to concentrate. I will try these and hopefully they help me because I am getting really annoyed now.
Thank You =)
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Hmmmm... this article has been very useful. Thx for posting it.
i cnt sleep no matter wht espacilly after i watched parnormal activity
I seem to get my best quality sleep during the two hours before my alarm goes off. If I could only figure out how to trigger that level of sleep five hours sooner, I'd have it made!!
i dont think i have fallen asleep before 3 in the morning for the last couple years. sometimes i will not sleep at all so i can go to sleep at the time i want the next night, but it never seems to get me on track. i mean, its 4:30 right now and im on my computer researching sleeping instead of sleeping. im pretty sure im going to have to make some changes in my room to help me sleep better, but i dont know how im going to live without my tv and laptop. SOMEONE HELP!
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