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by Patricia Pitta, Ph.D., A.B.P.P.

Well, let's look at what you call "falling in love." I like to call it "falling in infatuation." Love is a state of being that grows over time. It appears that you get involved in a situation that is very stimulating and once the excitement ends, so does the infatuation or the relationship.

It would be important to ask,"What do I want from a relationship?" Also, important to ask, "What am I willing to give and do to reach my goals?"

Perhaps, you attract people who want excitement rather than the development of a lasting bond and creating love. You may think you are falling in love when it is just a fleeting fancy. I would suggest you read the article in this ezine entitled Finding Someone Right for You by Edward Dreyfus, Ph.D.

About the Author:

Dr. Patricia Pitta is a clinical psychologist practicing in Manhasset, New York, for more than 20 years. She is a Diplomat in Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association and an Approved Supervisor of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. Dr. Pitta is also the President of the Long Island Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.

She has created a treatment modality that enables the partners to accept responsibility for their parts in relationship problems leading to resolution of issues without getting stuck in blame. She encourages self growth which enhances couple growth and family development.