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by Edward A. Dreyfus, Ph.D.

The fact that you have cheated on your boyfriend and that he does not publicly acknowledge that you are his girlfriend, suggests that neither of you are committed to this relationship.

It sounds more like you are convenient to one another, like a security blanket. It's nice to know that it is there. You might want to consider learning how to live on your own.

Otherwise, you are likely to find yourself in unhealthy relationships and have difficulty getting out soon enough. The best relationships are those based on friendship between two independent people.

These relationships are not based on dependence or fear. Rather they are based on mutual respect, affection, commitment, communication, and love. Your current relationship seems to lack many of these attributes. Cheating on boyfriend is the tip of the iceberg.

About the Author:

Dr. Edward A. Dreyfus is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage, Family, Child Therapist, and Sex Therapist. Dr. Dreyfus has been providing psychological services in the Los Angeles-Santa Monica area for over 30 years. He offers individual psychotherapy to adolescents and adults, divorce mediation, couples counseling, group therapy, and career and vocational counseling and assessment. Dr. Dreyfus can be reached at: (310) 208-5700.