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Are You the Cheating Girlfriend? Get a Handle on Your Relationship

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by Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D.

 
Question: I am engaged and have doubts about the relationship. I have also found myself cheating on my fiance with his roommate, who happens to have a girlfriend who will be my roommate in a few weeks. Any help you can offer?

I would suggest that you sit down with a counselor and first of all examine the relationship between you and your fiance. Being a cheating girlfriend is indicative of problems between the two of you.

What problems are there that you might be trying to ignore? Are there things about him that bother you but which, so far, you have been trying to overlook?

Take time to examine this other relationship. What draws you to this other person? Are there needs getting met there that are a problem in your relationship with your fiance?

Further, if your marriage is coming up soon, you might consider postponing it until you can resolve some of these issues. To proceed without resolution could be a set-up for disaster. Your fiance will find out that he has a cheating girlfriend, either sooner or later.

About the Author:

Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in El Paso, TX. He is the author of three books on psychology and spirituality.

Originally published 12/30/98
Revised 06/20/10 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.

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