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Does Your Child Say This? "I hate you."
by James Lehman, MSW
Of all the weapons in your child’s arsenal, the words “I hate you” can have the power to reduce any parent to tears or anger. Children know that saying this can paralyze a parent during a fight, which is why they use this tactic to get what they want.
In this month’s issue, James Lehman, creator of The Total Transformation Program for parents, demonstrates how to focus the argument back on the issue at hand, and reduce the emotional sting of your child’s words in the process.
“I hate you!”
Translation:You won’t let me go out tonight, so I’m going to talk hatefully to you so you’ll get upset and give in.
Ineffective parenting response: “I hate you sometimes, too!”
Effective parenting response:“Maybe sometimes you do hate me. But I’m still not letting you go out tonight.”
About the Author:
Does Your Child Say This? "I hate you." reprinted with permission from Empowering Parents.
